Hi, my first post. Firstly great board~I arrived in Bangkok a few months ago and have been a background 'lurker' reading here since then.
My issue is whether, and how much, to give a thai bf as an allowance. I think an allowance is warranted, as he is a student, and I'm on an expat salary, but I don't know how much is appropriate.
A bit of background:
I'm an expat , early 30s, posted here for 3 years. He's 20, lao, has had farangs before but never a barboy, although he admits that it has tempted him. Does have a part-time job, but with negigible monthly income. I like him and want to see where things go, he's the same.We've been dating for 2 months, and I've given him some money during that time, basically because I think I ought to due to the income differential. He's never asked mefor $$ before but probably would have, direclty or indirectly, if I hadn't given him 'tuk tuk money'. But now i think we are in a position to formalise things a bit more.
I have come up with the following budget:
4000B - living allowance , transport, food etc He won't move in with me, I'm keen for him to keep his own place for the time being. Rent for that is included. This tops up his part-time earnings
3000B - Parent. They're from Laos and could probably do with the extra cash. This lets him fulfil his filial responsibility and avoids demands on me down the track.
4000B - education. Is this a lot? I have no idea how much college costs here and haven't asked him yet. I think education is worthwhile and am happy to (partially) fund it while we are together.
8000B - his 'extra money'. A mix of a savings account, money for gifts from me, money for his family's medical expenses, extra money for college fees, basically anything he wants. If we break up and he hasn't used it I'll give this to him in a bulk sum.
19,000B Total, per month, on toip of what he brings in (4000B).
My question - Is this way too much? am i being too generous? Too stingy?
Any advice relating to this issue would be appreciated.