I've often wondered if calling Thai guys "boys" would ever put a target on your back by those who lurk online and monitor forums. I then saw this http://www.queerty.com/mans-life-ruined ... e-20150508
With thai guys looking so youthful I don't think it we old be wise for Americans to post about boys. Sure you may be doing nothing illegal but that will be of little comfort when your name and picture is all over the news.
These are the good'ol days
Perhaps we should all go-Amuricun and just use it like, er, the B-word.
Just another reason why I love living in Thailand
I think it was Brad that warned about the problem of calling young men boys. The word boy certainly sounds too young,even though we're all talking about 18 plus years of age here.
A Thai man I made friends with on one of my trips sent me a couple of photos of himself. I didn't think much of it until I showed my best friend the photos. He burst out laughing thinking the man was 14 years old. I tried to explain to him that Asian men look much younger than their real age, but I had a hard time convincing my friend that.He was fully clothed by the way.
I like the site Captain Outrageous, which is mostly fems he takes photos of. But they are fairly young looking. Thank goodness for the disclaimer stating they're all over 18.
The vast amounts of money being spent here in America on Homeland Security and surveillance is amazing. Probably reading this right now! One would be taking tremendous risk if they thought they could down load any thing illegal. I wonder about Facebook also. I come across under age porn by mistake just clicking thru profiles. I would think their staff would delete this stuff.its not video but a photo here or there.
You are right. I came across a story of a guy convicted with the his message board posts about Thai boys he met and how some were green.
Computers hold a lifetime of a singe persons information and search has gotten so good that its become scary as to what can be done.
These are the good'ol days
I have a Thai friend who goes by the nickname of 'Boy'. He's 32 years old but looks much younger.
I have a couple of photos of him in my computer and the pictures are called boy_01.jpg and boy_02.jpg. I guess I will have to be more careful.
One anecdote: We were shopping in Central some months ago when I spoke to him and said "Boy, please can you carry these bags while I get the carpark card stamped' I was overheard by a Dutch woman who berated me for calling the local lad 'Boy'. It's colonial and elitist she said. I explained to her that Boy was the boy's name but she did not want to climb down from her moral high horse. So I called Boy over and asked him to tell the woman what his name was. 'Boy' he said. 'What!' she said. 'I don't believe you'.
After a bit more questioning and answering between Boy and the woman it was finished by Boy calling her stupid and walking away.
It's a common nickname around Pattaya but, as far I can discern, it is a "stage" name, used only for business. The last time (about four months ago) that a guy told me that this was his name, I asked him what his Thai friends called him. And it wasn't "boy".
There is , of course, another reason to avoid the term when discussing young men- its use by American and Boer racists to humiliate African and Afro-American men.
Remind me not to visit Boystown or visit Boys Boys Boys, Dream Boys, X-Boys, Sunny Boys, etc.; wouldn't want people to get the wrong impression.
Boy's name is certainly not a 'stage name' - he tells me that it was given to him by his teacher when he was 6 years old and he has used it ever since. Even his parents call him 'Boy'.
But we are not in America or South Africa. We are in a country where the nickname 'Boy' is as common as Bob or Jim is in the West.There is , of course, another reason to avoid the term when discussing young men- its use by American and Boer racists to humiliate African and Afro-American men.
It's called the "Peter Pan Syndrome" and is clearly reflected on sites like Grindr with guys on their 30s and 40s with handles like "sexyboi". While people in general (including the newspapers) keep referring to 16 year olds as "young boys" there's really not much hope is there. For me a young boy is 6 years old, not 16 years old.
I really wouldn't worry about the use of the word boy with regards to photos etc. After all there are plenty of mainstream gay porn sites that use it, for example enigmaticboys and boycrush to name but two.
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