Matt and I are in touch via email and I have told him the following - in the event of Leo's mother's death, I will not travel to KK. I feel it would be intruding on Leo's private grief. My mother died in January, and the thought of having to entertain some foreign stranger, even for one night, would have been too much.
Matt has insisted that he is ready to meet as arranged. I feel that will change when (if?) she dies. So this is entirely my decision, and should not be taken as a reflection on Matt, in any way.
I've become very disillusioned with all the negative posts directed at one person. It feels like a pack of hyenas circling a wounded gazelle. I won't partake in it any more.
If Leo's mother recovers, I am more than happy to go with the original plan.