Expats -- How do you handle long-term giks?

[cdnmatt]

For the expats, I'm curious, how do you handle long-term giks? Someone you want to meet on a regular basis, but aren't interested in an actual relationship with?

I'm assuming you have your nice, comfortable house and everything. Then you meet a guy, and for the first few times go to a hotel to get to know each other. After that, what do you do? Do you actually let them come to your house, or?

There's one guy I wouldn't mind letting know where I live, because it sucks at the hotel. You know, there's the hotel, then there's my nice house with 3 bedrrooms, 2 baths, loads of food, couple computers, good wi-fi, TV, playstation, etc. Plus it's just degrading towards him to meet at a hotel. That, and I don't like leaving my dogs alone too long at night. During the day they're fine, but at night they get scared being alone.

Would love to bring people back here, because it would be 10,000 times more comfortable for both of us. But... after Kim, I'm quite wary of that. What happens if we stop seeing each other in 6 months from now, even though I always straight-up tell them I'm not looking for a BF, and only looking for fun? I never lie, so I make it very clear I'm not looking for a BF, but instead just some fun times, and I'm happy to help with money.

Doesn't matter though, if I bring them here, and later on they can't afford rent or food, decent chance they will be at my door banging on my doorbell.

I had a condo a while ago for one guy, but he fucked off on me to Udon Thani, so I ended up breaking the lease and giving up my deposit.

So I'm unsure, for you exapts, how do you deal with long-term giks that you want to come around on a long-term basis, but don't want to become an actual BF with them?

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