Question about a situation .......

Want to get some opinions on a current situation. IтАЩm not a newby - been going in and out of Bangkok several times a year for a few years. KNOW the ways of bar boys - OK?

Very butterfly. Often take off different boys for a few hours or a few days. Sometimes the same boy a couple of times. Have a number of long term Thai friends - not sex. Into Thai history and culture.

Last year I offed an Issan boy in Bangkok a couple of nights and found him to be a good kid with some nice ideas about his future. Sex for both of us nothing special. Money, except for tip, not an issue nor mentioned. After I left I sent him a book and the remainder of my baht - not much. When I returned to Bangkok several months later I indicated that I was a bit more interested in him and spending some time with him. He was not at all interested and said, тАЬso sorry it does not work out for you and me.тАЭ OK good and to the point.

In December I suddenly got an email from him [had given him my card the first time I met him]. He IS interested, wants to see me when I return. Often sends email saying the same thing.

What is going on here?

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[catawampuscat]

Impossible to know what the boy is thinking.
We can all make assumptions based on experience but they
will be useless and just guesses..
My guess would be he detects your interest and thinks it may
pan out as we are fast heading into slow season and tough times.
It could be anything and your guess is best.. :cat:

[Lunchtime O'Booze]

I don't doubt your story in the slightest Francis but I reckon if you get an answer you will have solved one of life's great mysteries..an insight into the workings of Thai lad's mind.

Give it a go anyway..love has blossomed under far stranger conditions. Treat it as an adventure and where it goes..you may not know but it could be fun.

What o`booze said. Give it a try. it wont cost you more than you want it to as you said you are not a newbie.

[krobbie]

If you want to see him again on your next trip, tell him so. In the interim send NO MONEY, but keep up your steady emails.

If very soon there should be requests for funds as Mumma is unwell or have to get new room or any of a hundred other reasons ... you will have the correct answer. This was born from something other than affection on his part.

If indeed there are no such requests and you meet up next you are there fantastic. Maybe you have found boy special.

Time is the key here. When are you back on LOS?

Cheers
krobbie

Thanks for the replies and suggestions. Yes, I do plan to "Give it a go anyway..love has blossomed under far stranger conditions. Treat it as an adventure and where it goes..you may not know but it could be fun." [Thanks O'Booze]

krobbie: There has not been a request for funds, mother ill, dead cow, yet. I have rather expected this but so far nothing. I keep waiting for the other shoe to fall???

Perhaps one of the problems is me. I have always been the one who chases after someone. Never been chased before and the role is a bit strange for me??????

a lot of Thais seem to subscribe to the old proverb about distinguishing between birds in the hand and birds in the bush.

My guess would be that at the time you contacted him he had (or thought he had) a steady long term money provider that he was prepared to bank on.

Now things have changed, so.......things have changed.

I've never known a Thai boy to turn down a second money stream (or a third, or a fourth...).

[Aunty]

I agree, Beach Bunny. Sounds like the #1 Sugardaddy is out of the picture for some reason and he's now frantically looking for another.

[Dodger]

Francis...

I'm really not good on giving advice on these matters, as I usually have enough on my hands managing my own blunders, but in this case I will. Bottom line...If you really like the boy, and the two of you have good chemistry, then just go for it. Return his call, get together, and have a ball together.

We only live once, and life is just too short to waste our time worrying about trivial matters, and the reason why he's contacting you now means absolutely nothing in the big scheme of things.

I often remind myself, that the boys need us as much as we need them. Our (farang) needs, of course align more with receiving sexual and/or emotionel gratification from them - with their needs aligning more with the financial support we can offer them, but regardless of the nature or source of our needs, the fact still remains that we do sincerely need each other.

I had a farang ask me once; "Dodger, you don't actually believe he loves you, do you"? My response: "No, not yet, but with a little more practice I hope to."

Enjoy your adventure Francis...and while you're at it, remember this old saying; "If a person believes is something which does not exist with enough passion, he can create it.

Albert Einstein