I reported recently on my trip to Cambodia with my HIV+ Thai boyfriend. It all went very well and he seemed fine. I wrote at the time though just how unpredictable his health could be and I didn't realise how true that was as within minutes of posting that report I had news of the latest crisis.
He had cataract operations on both eyes last year and his eyes had been fine since. Then he began to complain of pain and within days of our return from Cambodia they were so bloodshot they looked almost completely red. Then they became so swollen that his eyes closed and he couldn't see at all.
Living on his own became impossible and he had to admit to his mother that something was wrong. She visited and was so alarmed at his condition that she managed to get a local doctor to visit. Normally he won't see local doctors at all as he doesn't like people knowing he's ill. He usually waits until he goes to the Bangkok clinic every two or three weeks.
The doctor said that his sight was in serious danger and he was put in a taxi and despatched to the Bangkok hospital where the cataracts had been done.
The swelling was so bad that they had trouble getting drops into his eyes and they were also worried about his sight. He was put on an intravenous drip and he was told that it would be several days or even more before it would be known if his sight was going to be OK.
It was a very worrying time until yesterday when he called me and said that for the first time he had some blurred vision. His eyes are now bandaged but it seems hopeful that things will gradually improve.
I've no idea what caused this latest problem and I don't even know if it's anything to do with the cataracts or what the drip was for. Getting any more information is very difficult but I think I've persuaded my him to stay put for as long as it takes to make sure everything is OK. In the past he has a history of discharging himself as soon as he thinks he's OK as he wants to go home and he likes to save me money.
It's still early days but I'm hopeful that he will recover. This came as a complete shock and has again reinforced how unwise I was to take him out of Thailand and away from his doctors. He stays in Thailand in future whatever he says.
On a positive note his CD4 count has held up throughout this latest problem and he remains fairly strong otherwise.