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It is good to have a new voice on this forum, sort of like a breath of fresh air and urgently needed as it can get same old same old...
I did cringe a little bit with the uncle/nephew names, as it seemed very dated to me , pre-Stonewall, pre- Boys in the Band,
but maybe I am oversensitive having lived thru that very closeted period of time.. I am sure these are affectionate terms meant
to make the family comfortable and the relationship acceptable but still it makes me cringe just a bit..
I love being gay and proud and everyone I worked with and everyone in my family has known I am queer for many decades and
there are many farangs in Pattaya who live in closets and live lies with their family, friends and workmates.. Several men I know actually have wives and children who don't know who their dad/husband really is.. One very closeted man I know recently went on
a visa run with the usual gang of straight farangs, who only talk pussy and he joined in, inventing stories to be one of the guys.. Of course, I wouldn't go out of my way to broadcast my homosexuality with everyone I meet, but lying is just adding another door to the
closet and proof of shame.. When I am in that situation, I get a little holier than thou and say that I am not into scene and find it exploitive and depressing to see fat old men pawing young girls etc.. Of course, I am pinned as a wet blanket but it shuts up the assholes on the visa run.. I have no patience with breeders and avoid straight farangs like the plague but that is my hangup..
Keep it up bao and don't let opinionated posters like catawampuscat interfere with your heartfelt and very personal postings...
You're correct - When we first met I'd told him I'd happy to be an "older brother" or "uncle" for him and that got the issue of sex out of the way. He's a beautiful young man but sex can ruin otherwise good friendships sometimes and neither of us wanted that. They're just terms of affection that we use in a joking fashion most of the time. I was introduced to family by my first name to begin with.
Sigh - gold old memories.
I used to be known as Uncle come from the sky by my BF`s little nephews.
I loved your post, so heartfelt and touching.
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He is from a humble rice farming family and is the first of his family to manage to get an education. He has never asked for anything more than bus money a couple of times and has not often accepted anything more than a meal out. Thinking it would be a kindness I took him on holiday and showed him a couple weeks of life in the Big City, far from their rice paddies.
Bao Bao
I looks like you have found Mr Special. You obviously love him and he you. I agree with other posters that the Uncle nephew thing is a bit OTT. It reminds me of closit queens from years gone, introducing their bf as nephew, thinking it sort of made everything Kosha.
The trip to the big city was a very nice thing to do, but remember he had to go back to the rice fields where everything goes back to the way it was. You go back to your country where its much the same as the big city.
If I were you and wanted to keep this lovely thing going I would open him a bank account immediatly and hand him the pass book. Send him a monthly sum of say $100 or so. I'm sure it wouldn,t make a big difference to you finances but it would make a huge difference to the life style of this humble rice farming family. This way he wouldn't have to ask, and he wouldn't have to refuse your offers. You would be able to go to bed at night knowing that you are being like a real Uncle ( who is wealthy compared to them) and raising them a bit higher than the bread line.
Don't try to hold in farts - they travel up your spine and into your brain and that is where shitty ideas come from.
He is from a humble rice farming family and is the first of his family to manage to get an education. He has never asked for anything more than bus money a couple of times and has not often accepted anything more than a meal out. Thinking it would be a kindness I took him on holiday and showed him a couple weeks of life in the Big City, far from their rice paddies.
Bao Bao
I looks like you have found Mr Special. You obviously love him and he you. I agree with other posters that the Uncle nephew thing is a bit OTT. It reminds me of closit queens from years gone, introducing their bf as nephew, thinking it sort of made everything Kosha.
The trip to the big city was a very nice thing to do, but remember he had to go back to the rice fields where everything goes back to the way it was. You go back to your country where its much the same as the big city.
If I were you and wanted to keep this lovely thing going I would open him a bank account immediatly and hand him the pass book. Send him a monthly sum of say $100 or so. I'm sure it wouldn,t make a big difference to you finances but it would make a huge difference to the life style of this humble rice farming family. This way he wouldn't have to ask, and he wouldn't have to refuse your offers. You would be able to go to bed at night knowing that you are being like a real Uncle ( who is wealthy compared to them) and raising them a bit higher than the bread line.
Don't try to hold in farts - they travel up your spine and into your brain and that is where shitty ideas come from.
Reading this made me cringe as well, I immediately thought of the dear departed BC, what a waste of paper she was.
when you read his follow up it does not seem that bad at allOriginally Posted by bao-bao
what do the people complaining suggest the boy should call him
in my family when growing up everybody was uncle aunty
what do your boys call you mr ATM???
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