...and here i was led to believe that the locals existed in a happy cloud of Budda induced tantric wellness at peace with the universe with no worries....
...and here i was led to believe that the locals existed in a happy cloud of Budda induced tantric wellness at peace with the universe with no worries....
Two of the problems crippling many Thai families is alcoholism and infidelity. The farther you travel upcountry, the more apparent this becomes.
Unfortunately, especially for the children, many adult men drink alcoholically and cheat on their wives as regular as clockwork. This is just the way it is for a large percentage of families, especially in the more rural areas. It's like children raising children, with most of the household burden belonging to the mother and/or other family elders, where the fathers often end up deserting their families at some juncture as the pressure builds.
As most of us know, this is why many Thai boys are fatherless.
I cringe every time I hear about these guys getting their penises chopped off with a machete for cheating on their spouses. If anyone's confused about the importance of monogamy in a Thai relationship, just ask a str8 man who's received a fee sex change operation without ever asking for one.
Surely it’s on shameless public display in some places and the media?Originally Posted by Dodger
Almost every single night of the week on Thai TV, including graphic videos.
You need to get out more.
You're spot on here, Dodger.
It's a tale I've heard many times over the years and sums up the situation of my Pattaya friend, Nom. His father was addicted to pain killers and Nom became the sole breadwinner at the age of 10, if memory serves me correctly.
Which begs the question - do some guys see certain farang as the father they never had?
It is undeniably true that young Asian men (not just Thai) are more likely to be attracted to older guys than young men in the West. The evidence is there in the saunas, both Asian and European. I put it down to the in-grained respect that young Asians have for older people but there are no doubt other reasons too.
"Which begs the question - do some guys see certain farang as the father they never had?"
Or wanted.
Being serious it's quite possible a young Thai boy sees his well to do falang as an idealised father figure. In which case disappointment for both sides is guaranteed.
I don't know about "guaranteed". It could work out in certain circumstances but failure is certainly on the cards, given the age difference (I was thinking of a farang in his 50s) and the ever-present cultural differences.
I would have called them hagiographic rather than merely graphic.
The answer to this just has to be YES.
With the types of age gaps we're talking about, coupled with some of the boys growing up without having a solid father figure in their lives, it only makes sense that this would come into play.
If a farang has never spent any time in a typical remote Thai village, it would be hard for him to even imagine the hardships involved, let alone draw any conclusions regarding a Thai boys true character.
Frankly, and I don't mean for this to sound like I'm some kind of expert on this, because I'm certainly not, but I don't see how a farang could communicate well enough with a Thai boy to really make a connection (or offer any fatherly advice), if he hadn't spent at least some time experiencing the type of environment he came from.
I've known many really great Thai boys who would give anything to hook up with a genuine person (young or old) who doesn't view them merely as a "sex object", and who is willing to give them the type of guidance and security they need to excel. This is the type of substance they're looking for in a true partner. Someone who really cares - and someone they can really trust.
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