Three Friends

[StevieWonders]

If you go looking (perhaps on your mobile phone) there are porn videos illustrating this phenomenon.

[Dodger]

It’s more a reflection on the narrowness of your own outlook Dodger.

Sorry, (whatever your name is today), the bait you're using is better suited for tadpoles.

[Dodger]

I received responses from all Three Friends referenced in this post answering a few more questions I had for them.

Two of the three say they plan to find a boyfriend and settle down when they return to LOS (hopefully this year) because the scene just isn't what it used to be, and the bars they liked are now closed. Number three said he was considering hanging up his butterfly wings because he simply wouldn't be able to afford bar life on his retirement budget and was tired of bar-boy games.

All valid reasons I guess, but who knows where their paths will lead once they get back here and start smelling the roses again.

All Three are surfing the gay dating apps as we speak.

A comment I felt comfortable including in my responses to all Three Friends was; "Don't just focus on his sexual preference(s), because those can change with the wind...as can yours. Focus of what type of person he is first".







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[christianpfc]

re desensitization: does it mean that both straight MB and gay MB might develop problems being able to relate to (and enjoy) a real romantic partner in the future as a result of their desensitization? that would be sad.

Not just the boys. Sometimes I wonder if being on the hunt for someone new most of the time, changing my sexual partners more frequently than my underwear, a bad habit that I have ingrained for 10 years, makes me unsuitable for a monogamous relationship, or any relationship at all.

love and the resultuing sex is hugely enjoyable ...the psychology behind it is complicated...

I think there is only a loose relationship between sex and love, and certainly not causal as you write. Each can exist without the other, and I can clearly separate them, but many of my sexual partners cannot.

[Dodger]

Sometimes I wonder if being on the hunt for someone new most of the time, changing my sexual partners more frequently than my underwear, a bad habit that I have ingrained for 10 years, makes me unsuitable for a monogamous relationship, or any relationship at all.

I had the exact same thoughts about myself, and didn't think "Relationship Life" was something I was at all qualified for based on my previous untamed lifestyle. I was also dealing with the memories of a tragic ending of a roller-coaster relationship I had with a boy who I cared for deeply which ended with his death back in 2012. If there ever was a mistake waiting to be made out there - it was me that was going to make it. Saying that I was lacking self-confidence regarding relationships at that stage of my life would be putting it mildly.

All I can say is I never once felt desensitized sexually when transitioning from "Butterfly Mania" to a monogamous relationship. Maybe it happens to some guys, but t didn't happen to me. If anything, I found that my sex life was improving...more time for creative foreplay... more spontaneity...longer and more adventurous interactions...knowing where those hidden buttons are...adding "intimacy" to the mix...more fulfilling sex overall. Results = Better Sex Life.

Next April will mark 7 years that we've been together...sex is a priority to both of us (we're obsessed)...constantly experimenting and exploring. Do we ever think about tossing in the hay with someone else? Of course. Do we? No. Why? It would fuck things up and we don't want to lose what we have.

[mr giggles]

I don't know if it's still available ( I bought my copy in Royal Garden about seventeen years ago) but "Thailand Fever" is worth a read in this context. It's written by an American and concerns falang relationships with Thai women- specifically bar-girls. Helpfully, much of it is also translated into Thai so that our partners can read it too. Most but not all of it is relevant to gay relationships.

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The gay equivalent is the book The Rice Queen Diaries, A Memoir by Daniel Gawthrop

It's a great read, (get a cheaper digital version) , and gives a true account of a Canadian mans adventures in Thailand. The author is a journalist and can really write!

[StevieWonders]

What appalls me are the Westerners who settle here, witter on about “Buddhism” and the superiority of Asian values yet persist with the purely Western practice of monogamy. If living in Thailand is so great, what’s wrong with having a mia noi?

[Dodger]

What appalls me are the Westerners who settle here, witter on about “Buddhism” and the superiority of Asian values yet persist with the purely Western practice of monogamy. If living in Thailand is so great, what’s wrong with having a mia noi?

If it's right for you - how could it be wrong?

[cdnmatt]

What appalls me are the Westerners who settle here, witter on about “Buddhism” and the superiority of Asian values yet persist with the purely Western practice of monogamy. If living in Thailand is so great, what’s wrong with having a mia noi?

Just because it happens all the time in Thailand doesn't means it's met with approval by the partner (wife, BF, whoever). There's a reason for curtain motels all over the place, instad of it being out in the open.

[snotface]

Just because it happens all the time in Thailand doesn't means it's met with approval by the partner (wife, BF, whoever). There's a reason for curtain motels all over the place, instad of it being out in the open.

Perhaps the same reason why Thailand leads the world in penis reattachment surgery. Don't read the link below if you're squeamish (so of course everyone will):


http://www.taipeitimes.com/News/worl...rced%20to%20be.