a447 is not the brightest light in the chandelier...
I don't believe that's the issue at all. I've written previously about what I think a447's problem is and I'm not going to repeat myself. Sufficient to say that his fellow Moderator, christian, has outed himself as suffering from Asperger's
I referred to "intimate relationship" in the exact same way I refer to the guys as "friends". That's not the same.
I'm surprised you of all people missed the subtle difference.
I seem to remember similar remarks from the group of ex priests and brothers that used to hang around the Sunee Bars, some 10 years ago.
Some seem to be still around.
Wombat : an Australian marsupial that eats,roots and leaves
I am similar to you. Many years offing from bars. I have not had any bad experiences either. Most boys seem really pleased if you give them a tip. After all for its not that much!