Fully gay and fully straight are cultural categories that we use to navigate in life. This is especially true for younger guys, even though they on the surface tend to be very firm in claiming to be straight unless they are gay. Luckily, in Thaliand and other SE Asian countries, the gay/straight categories seem to be tight to the public image and not so much what you actually do in bed, e.g. the example of seemingly straight Thai boys with Thai girl friends accepting varoius offers from farangs to join them in bed for a small amount of pocket money. I personally believe that the money plays an important role in the this - the money can (totally unconsciously!) be a good psychological excuse for the Thais boy to join the farang in bed. It might not lead to a glorious money boy career for the boy, but it can serve as an opportunity to explore your sexuality.
I consider myself gay, but I know that it's not entirely true if I claim that I have only thought of boys and guys since my young teenage years, but it has MAINLY been guys and boys for sure, and over time I - knowingly or unknowingly - have developed an identity as being almost exclusively gay because that is just easier to manage and defend in public, especially in the west where we insist that there is a clear and consistent link between your public/family sexual identiy and what you actually are doing in bed. In SE Asia, they tend to be a little more willing to split up the public/family image (cultural institutions) and the bedroom reality and human sexuality (bodily physics, attraction, fun etc ) outside the gay/straight categories.
I disagree. All my reading, including the Kinsey report, indicates that the current academic view is that human sexuality is a linear projection with absolute hetero at one end and absolute homsexuality at the other, along the line connecting the two are varying degrees of sexual desires. Bisexuality is in the middle - just a graphic way of looking at it. There are those men who would rather die than touch another man and those, like me, who can barely tell one woman from another. Seriously, when watching crime dramas with larrge casts I can get confused because I can't seem to remember the various female faces. We've all had the one who will let you touch them for cash , simply can't get hard, need to watch porn and forget you're there. This is not simply a way "to navigate life" is there position on the spectrum of human response to sex.
francois (May 25th, 2018)
Pattaya is in the midst of low season and boys are anxious....Yesterday was at one of my favorite go go bars with all straight guys.....I know many well, I asked one who is quite well hung if he could top another guy I liked, after they had a brief discussion the 3 of us were together and one of the "straight" guys was the bottom....you can fill in the rest!
"In the land of the blind the one eyed man is king"
[QUOTE=Manforallseasons;242705....you can fill in the rest![/QUOTE]
As the straight guy said to you after he came ??
Manforallseasons (May 31st, 2018)
For those who care: I am a stalwart linear projection. At one time I seemed to be a leaning linear, but I put the kibosh on that after meeting a pure projection in a gay bar in Vancouver. I've never looked back.
Thank you and have a good day.
Smiles do you think it wise for someone your age to be awake at this hour?
"In the land of the blind the one eyed man is king"
Smiles (June 1st, 2018)