Agreed. The pleasant disposition of Thai boys who have few opportunities going for them is often very apparent. And welcome.
It makes a contrast to the Western culture.
Agreed. The pleasant disposition of Thai boys who have few opportunities going for them is often very apparent. And welcome.
It makes a contrast to the Western culture.
..........and that's the way it is.
I sometimes find posters responses interesting. This being one of those times. From my perspective it does not matter why the OP felt bad about not offing a deaf boy. Opinions about whether a person should or should not feel bad about not offing a deaf boy 20 years ago are opinions that reflect that posters opinions..and as like to say opinions are like assholes, everyone has one and they all stink.
For me, what is interesting is what feeling bad about not offing a deaf boys tells us about the OP.
Maybe the OP seems themselves are a decent person who wants to help others...or does not want to harm others..was asked to help someone and did not. I do not know..I am guessing but it may be they see their actions as not consistent with the view they have of themselves and it is that inconsistency that bothers them.
Just a thought.
Opinions are like assholes, everyone has one, and they all stink.
bobsaigon2 (November 10th, 2017), Brad the Impala (November 10th, 2017), francois (November 10th, 2017), scottish-guy (November 10th, 2017)
I suppose I should clarify....it was twenty years ago and so my recollections are not infallible. I was in Cockpit. At some stage, a group of the dancers approached me and pointed out a friend (in whom I had not been interested) and told me that he needed an off that night or he'd lose his job. Would I please off him? i didn't fancy him and so I said no. It was later- perhaps much later- that I recalled the event and regretted it.
The issue was not his deafness but his impending unemployment; the disability was relevant in so far as it was pointed out that he was deaf and this made it more difficult attract customers.
I was reminded of what happened during thc course of the fascinating discussion of the life-chances and opportunities for working-class youngsters in Thailand.
Brad the Impala (November 10th, 2017), francois (November 10th, 2017)
francois (November 10th, 2017)
I had a thing going with a deaf lad at home for about 6 months, decades ago.
I can't remember whether it was before or after the thing I had going with the 3 midgets, but gentle readers will be relieved to know it wasn't during.
He was profoundly deaf, with two enormous hearing aids, and poor speech - when I was a kid we'd have called him "deaf & dumb" but of course that's politically incorrect now.
His deafness caused few problems really and he lived in an apartment with two other young lads who were similarly afflicted.
Did you try setting up a sound equaliser with a screen to project the graphics so that the deaf lads could have noted the pitch and intensity of the groans and moans in the room?
Coincidentally, I'm due to have a hearing test next week, and it's like I'll need a hearing aid.
Hitchhiking's more of a challenge on the road less travelled.
Hope the hearing aid won't be necessary, Joe, but if it is, at least they are quite small these days.
I've an American friend who sometimes went with the boys to the discos. At first I couldn't understand how he could bear the noise. Then I realized that he couldn't hear a thing. He wears two hearing aids, easily removable at discos. Incredible lip reading skill he has.
I always wear ear protection at discos in Thailand or Vietnam - of the type where the volume is clipped to a safe level, but speech can still be heard
I already have bilateral tinnitus and I don't need it made worse thanks to the unregulated sound pressure levels they operate at.