Originally Posted by joe552
No, I'm actually being serious, and I'm not lieing. This is simply my life. Leo is back in Laos right now, and this morning I e-mailed him, asking him to go talk to the mother again, because if she's serious and is unable to take care of the kids, then we're serious too. Don't worry, I fully understand this is a full-time 10 year commitment we're looking it, and more.
I'm sorry, but there's about an 80% chance we're going to take those kids, because without question, they're better off with us. Quite obviously, the mother knows and trusts Leo enough to put her kids in his hands. I've thought this through and through, and you have to realize, these kids have absolutely no future if they stay in that village. If they stay there, they will be stuck in dire poverty for the rest of their natural lives. Whereas with us, they get a fighting shot at a good future in this modern world of ours.
Right now, they have a 5 person family, and all sleep in a one bedroom chack. They don't even had beds, let alone bedrooms. They probably barely have any clotes, are underweight and malnourished, probably dirty with shit like tapeworm, don't really get much love or attention or love from their parents, and getting a horrible education from some public school in the village, and so on.
Leo and myself could turn all that around 100% for them. They would have a nice home with proper bedrooms and beds, we'd get them some posters of whatever they like they can hang up on their walls, the kitchen and cupboards would be full of food they could raid anytime they want, we'd get them into a proper international school with an Australian cirriculum, they would recieve all the love, attention and care they need, we'd have a nice house with a large yard to play sports in (and if I have my way, a swimming pool too), etc.
Without question, Leo and myself would make amazing parents. I've met more than enough totally worthless, pirce of shit sperm donors who call themselves fathers in my life, to know that we couldn't possibly do any worse. Again, Leo and myself have a relationship that's about as strong and deep as human relationships get, so I'm not worried about that. He;s stuck with me every day since I went blind, and trust, that wasn't easy. My dad has showed up twice now in Khon Kaen unannounced, trying to bring me back to Canada, but I flat out refused both times, because I was simply unwilling to leave my husband. Leo's dad was recently hospitalized, and the family expected Leo to stay in the village to take care of his father. However, he decided differently, and pissed off the whole family by coming back to Khon Kaen to take care of his blind husband, and without question, that must have been a very difficult decision for him to make.
For another example, Leo and myself never actually argue, eh? So the kids won't have to constantly listen to parents who yell and scream at each other, which I'm sure many of us had to experience, including myself. Sure, we have our problems and differences, but when a problem arises, we always just sit down as rational adults, and talk about it in an open, honest and civil mannger, and come up with a solution that works for both of us. Both of us intrinsically understand that neither of us can do this life alone, but if we stick together, then we can make a very strong life, so we work together on everything.
And lots of other things. For example, looks like there's about a 90% chance I'm landing a very lucrative contract with a firm in Taiwan. Assuming that does go through, I'll be required to fly to Taiwan to train their software developers, which I've done before a couple times in Canada, so have experience with it. Assuming that contract goes through, and the timing is right, I'm going to want to take the kids with us. Simply because experiencing new countriries and cultures is without question the best education you can get in this life. Same goes for when Leo and myself go to Canada and visit my family -- those kids are coming, and can check out Canada too.
Without us, and if they stay in the village with their mother, they have no hope for the future. With us, at least the get a fighting shot. Leo and myself obviously won't be the best parents this world offers, and we're going to make our fair share of mistakes. Nonetheless, we can give these kids a far better shot at a good future than they would otherwise get, so more than likely, we're going to take them. Remains to be seen, but there's a good chance that's going to happen.
I fully understand the gravity of the situation, but I'm certain Leo and myself would be good parents.
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