Maybe someone can help explain this, as I've never been able to figure it out.
Ask any bottom out there if it hurts to get fucked, and nearly everytime you'll get the same answer. It hurts very much at first, but later it feels good. I've tried to let people top me a few times, and yeah, it fucken hurts.
So if it hurts, I don't understand why I'd ever want to do that to someone I love, let alone a hooker off a go-go bar stage if I'm a decent human being. If I love that person especially, why would I want to hurt them like that? I want to make them feel good, not in pain.
Is being a bottom purely an emotional thing, and not for physical pleasure, or? There's not a chance I'll ever be a bottom, because that hurts, so I'm still a little confused as to what pleasure bottoms get out of it.