I actually do have a clue, culture police. Nowhere did I claim that this concept applies here. You could have guessed that from the "in plain view" part...
Nevertheless, if you strip the bullshit, it IS cheating, end of story.
As to being an asshole, I guess judging someone from a single mistake is easy hey ?
I am not looking for any sympathy, and quite frankly, I don't care that some judgemental stranger doesn't have any respect for me. You don't know me at all..