Originally Posted by
Khor tose
I give up. When it comes to Henry I am completely helpless, I have decided to put Henry on тАЬignoreтАЭ as I cannot come to another solution. Please bear with me while I describe my problem, and feel free to offer me any suggestions you may think would work.
I owe Henry big time. Something that Henry did under his real name played a very important role in my life. Until I met him on this message board he was one of my heroes. I am not joking. I wish I could go into details, but I cannot without reveling his real name. So here is my problem. What the hell do you do when it turns out that your hero, not only has feet of clay, but also is best described as a jerk?
I have tried to go after him a couple of times, but I feel guilty when I do, and when he comes back at me I am incapable of responding. My affection for the man runs smack into my intellectual distaste for his thinking, and I freeze between the two emotions. What makes it worse is that we live (at times) in the same town, and I also get reports on him that confirm his jerk status. Fortunately, we run in completely different circles, as my friends are not his friends, but I dread the day when we officially meet.
I started this out asking for a solution, but what I think I am really trying to do is talk to Henry the only way I can. Henry are you the man you were eighteen years ago, or has cognitive impairment set in? Have you seen a doctor, and are there non-Shan friends around you who can assess your mental capabilities. I know you will take my questions as an insult, and I can only offer you my personal assurances that they are honest concerns. At the very worse my concerns may be my attempt to give you an excuse not to be the person you seem to be, but the person I wanted you to be. Henry you will get a kick out of this, but you are breaking my heart.