B/F Gay or Str8??????

I understand that the definition of gay and str8 is not the same in LOS. But how do i tell if my b/f is gay or str8. In private he is verything you could ask for in a str8 acting gay b/f. But when we 1st met he said he used to have g/f and he only went to work in bar for cash. we have great fun and time together and I take very good care of him $$$$. I have never seen him chat with other boys and says he never mixes with other boys from bars etc.... when we meet friend they are all girls eiethr from his village of freinds from girl bars that he know. he seems to spend all his time with females and I have never met any males friends. My b/f know I have just broken up with my ex thai b/f of 4 years and aboviously he is keep to be then next boy i sponsor. I have told him i am 10% butterfly and he says he is happy if i am happy but mke sur he keeps face.

I have visited LOS many many time before over last 5 years but not that experined on the butterfly stakes, i generally stay very loyal to the one boy. Any advice would be welcome.

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[Aunty]

In my opinion mate, your bf is gay for pay. And that's cool, you still get to enjoy him and his company, as well as his unique manly charms. Just don't expect him honey to burst out singing show songs by Judy and Babs. It ain't gonna happen.

Do you actually need that though? I mean what are you really asking/needing here? Do you want to know he's sincere? That he actually likes you for you, and not because of your money? Is that what this is about? Are you developing feelings for him, maybe even falling in love and you need some sort of reassurance around a feeling of insecurity that his intentions are genuine? If that is what you want and need, (and perfectly reasonable they are too) then in my view run, don't walk away from this guy.

When it comes to figuring out if someone is gay or str8, don't pay a blind bit of attention to what they say, just look at what they do. This is a time where actions really do speak louder than words. He has already admitted to having a past gf, and he's already told you he got in to the man sex thing for pay. HELLO! Anybody home!! :-)

He seeks the company of women, almost exclusively from what you say (Why is that? He's looking for recipes? No, he's wanting to score!). He's never told you he's had a past bf. HELLO!!! But this is the acid test. When you go out with him, who's he looking at? When an attractive young woman walks by, does his eyes travel lasciviously to her supple breasts, her pliant thighs, and her big round jelly butt, or is he more interested in the shoes she's wearing, assuming that is, he's even noticed she exists. And when a young couple walks by, who's he looking at. The boy or the girl? If it's the girl, he's str8. And the proof, let him access porn sites on your computer when you're not there. Set him all up so he can. Then go in and check the cache. If it's girlie pics he's been perving at, well I think he won't be baking cakes and hosting dinner parties for six. That will be your job!

[TrongpaiExpat]

When I met my BF 3 years ago, he said he was 80/20, with 80% being gay. He had sex one time with a Thai girl back in Isarn when he was 18, he is 26 now. He said it was her idea and he was drunk but he liked it.

Recently he began talking about sex with ladies and began asking me questions as I was married for most of my 20's. I asked him if he wanted to have sex with a lady and he said yes. I said it was OK with me and we went off to soi cowboy to find one.

He was very nervous and I noticed he began drinking more than usual. We talked to several and he kept finding excuses not to off this one or that one. Two ladies came up to us and sat with us and the BF was very uncomfortable.

After hours of looking and meeting Thai ladies, he announced that he now want to retract the 20% gay and wants to go home. Sex with lady, bad idea.

[Mi Cow Chai-old]

My bf was a go go boy. We met when I offed him from a bar. He is straight. His wife is my friend. His daughter calls me grandpa. We have been lovers for 14 years. We still enjoy sex. The point is go for whatever works for the both of you.

hey Aunty thanks 4 your comments. No I am not falling in love, never , never, never. but ask about b/f being gay, Guess I am hoping he like having sex with me. Im 38 in good shape but not a 20 year old Brad Pitt. Think I will ask him when we meet next about if he has g/f or not.ive discuss briefly about 3 some with another boy but not sure if hes up 4 it, do many boys go with thais for sex, man on man?

[CHAOTOU]

If you are 38, you are younger than Brad Pitt! ;-)

[colmx]

Hi jingmith

I don't understand how you can be Boyfriends but not in love?

Seems like a contradiction to me?

I guess the definition u are looking for is not BF in the case of this relationship??

As for boys who had GFs, well havn't they all? Especially when thye were yound and in school... that doesn't mean they don't discover that they like guys better once thay start working in bars!

My Bf has straight friend who started working in a bar only 5 weeks ago. He was Off'ed three days in a row by a Lady-boy... Now 3 weeks later they are lovers and practically living together... with no money involved any more...

Bf reckons his friend was always guy... just didn't know he liked it till he tried it!

My bf was a go go boy. We met when I offed him from a bar. He is straight. His wife is my friend. His daughter calls me grandpa. We have been lovers for 14 years. We still enjoy sex. The point is go for whatever works for the both of you.

I think this is a good reply. There are so many variations of sexual preference, and as another contributor mentioned, some people supress their cravings for years until one day they try something new that opens up new horizons for them. Whilst I understand your desire to know the 'real' him, maybe it isn't necessary to put a label on him for you to both enjoy and benefit from your relationship. Take your time to get to know him and good luck :bounce:

Current BF is gay, and proud of it.

As some of you know, May Day is a holiday in Thailand. Pattaya fills up with many many Thai tourists coming to the fun in the sun. The traffic in and out of Pattaya that day becomes close to paralytic. Getting to Jomtien is only possible by motosai and even then you may end up walking a bit.

That evening BF and I were heading to North Pattaya for dinner. We jumped into a baht bus and were soon caught in the May Day exodus gridlock. While queued at a stoplight, a baht bus full of teenage girls from Bangkok was stopped right next to us.

The girls starting hitting on the BF. Lots of "handsome", "cute", "movie star", etc. All true of course, he is a real stunner. He jokes a bit with them and when they ask him to join him and give them his mobile number, he puts his arm around me and tells them I am his BF. The look on their faces (and mine) was precious. The girls would not believe him at first, but when they did, they asked about 1000 polite questions about the both of us. Of course BF being a charming and friendly guy was very open about us. The girls were fascinated.

The traffic finally started to move and we soon separated. Lot of waving and genuine expressions of happiness and good luck on both sides. A surprisingly tender moment I will never forget.

I understand that the definition of gay and str8 is not the same in LOS.

Ok, guys, bring me into the new milennium. What *are* the definitions of gay and straight these days?

To me, a curmudgeon born deep in the last millenium, gay meant having sex with the same gender, and straight meant having sex with the opposite gender. Bi-sexual was the term for one who would have (or prefer to have) sex with either gender.

My bf was a go go boy. ... He is straight. ... We still enjoy sex.

Assuming the author of those comments and his bf are both male, in the Old World that would make his bf gay (or bi-sexual). In these changed days, what determines if a male who has sex with another male is gay, or if he is straight? Heck, maybe I'm straight but don't know it?

Has straight become a euphemism for same-sex participants who would rather not be bonking the same sex?