in reality, as others have said, it is mainly all about the type of lad one lusts after--if you are not into small, skinny, nellie things flitting about the stage like young girls, then no matter how much enthusiasm they show or energy produced, you will not find that bar to your liking--same if you do not lust after the more masculine, defined guys (not muscle boys), then you will not find certain other bars to your liking.