Hotel Etiquette (1st time traveller)

[Max6969]

So im gearing up for my 1st time trip to Bangkok/Pattaya. (Newbie )
I have travelled before, however mostly to places in the Middle East, so bringing someone to your Hotel(room) there was a big No-No.

So im curious, if i meet a guy say in Pattaya and take him to My Hotel (instead of a Love Hotel, i hear they are probably safer but anyway) what can i expect ?
Does the Hotelstaff ask questions ?
Do you need to take a 2pers room instead of your single room with double bed (if he stays all night) ?
Any difficulties ?

Also what are some common rates for short time and long time with a boy ?

Thank You

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[Mancs]

The hotel staff see it every 5 minutes. They do not ask questions but they often want the man's id to hold while he is there. I always book a room for 2 people. In Bangkok ST 2000, LT 3000 bt would be normalish. Cheaper in Pattaya. Do not believe Mamasans on prices. Haggling on the apps is fine.

[Max6969]

The hotel staff see it every 5 minutes. They do not ask questions but they often want the man's id to hold while he is there. I always book a room for 2 people. In Bangkok ST 2000, LT 3000 bt would be normalish. Cheaper in Pattaya. Do not believe Mamasans on prices. Haggling on the apps is fine.

Okay and what is the average ST and LT times ?

[Jellybean]

The hotel staff see it every 5 minutes. They do not ask questions but they often want the man's id to hold while he is there. I always book a room for 2 people. In Bangkok ST 2000, LT 3000 bt would be normalish. Cheaper in Pattaya. Do not believe Mamasans on prices. Haggling on the apps is fine.

Okay and what is the average ST and LT times ?

Traditionally and, I would say, by common consent, the accepted definition of short-time with a bar-boy is, you come, he goes!

Seriously though, short-time is as long as it takes you to have your merry way with the cute lad you’ve just off’d. But if you take too long, he'll soon let you know. Lol! If you really like the lad and want him to stay longer, you can simply ask him, but be prepared for a polite refusal. He may be eager to return to his bar and look for another off. I’ve been in bars many times and watched a punter leave the bar with a cute young lad in tow, only for the young man to return to the bar in what appears to be an unusually short space of time, strip back to his undies and resume his place on the stage. Either I’ve sat in the bar way too long, or it really was a very short-time off. Lol! Alternatively, he may have many other things to do, like meeting up with friends, going to a party or going out to a club, so don’t be too disappointed, you can ask to see him again the following night. But, thinking positively, he may agree, in that case you simply pay him the LT off-fee (or the agreed fee) in the morning.

In my experience, if you see a bar-boy on a regular basis, as an alternative to a long-time off, both of you may wish to extend the definition of short-time without the lad spending the night with you. I’ve known many cases where after the night or day’s activities are concluded we will go out for a meal together, or perhaps go for a swim, lounge by the pool, then go out for a meal. It all depends on the relationship built up with your new found friend. The lad may be interested in seeing the same punter night after night rather than gamble on finding a new punter every night and, it is not unheard of, but there’s a good chance he may really like you and ask to see you again. Of course in the early days you may not wish to commit yourself to seeing the same bar-boy every night and decide to play the field, explore the bars and see what else is out there. That will be, “up to you” a common phrase you are likely to hear quite often.

As regards the definition of long-time, this is generally accepted as having the lad stay with you overnight. If you want him to stop over even longer you will need to discuss the matter with him. You may well have really enjoyed each other’s company so much that, by mutual agreement, you both agree to extend his visit. But bear in mind, as a practical matter, it is entirely likely that he will wish to go home, speak with friends or family, or do any number of things, then return later in the day with a change of clothes etc,.

All of the above is solely based on my opinion, other members may very well advise you differently. Honestly, there are so many variables and my advice, for what it is worth, is to play it by ear, have a great time, enjoy the experience and treasure the memories.

[Max6969]

Traditionally and, I would say, by common consent, the accepted definition of short-time with a bar-boy is, you come, he goes!

lol Okay easy enough
Guess i am used to hours instead body reactions lol.
So i suppose if i just want some company i should just say at the bar or he could wait a long time

[Oliver2]

Are there "single" rooms available in Thailand? I don't think I've ever come across one.

Following Mancs's advice, I'd add two points. Firstly, the most expensive 5* hotels may require a joiner' s fee. Secondly, holding a visitor's ID card is a good thing, providing you with security...and is particularly helpful for a newbie.
Gay hotels in Pattaya always did (do?) this, phoning when the visitor left to ensure all was well. It also enables reception to check that the guy is not under-age. This may be an issue if you use apps.

[Max6969]

Are there "single" rooms available in Thailand? I don't think I've ever come across one.

Following Mancs's advice, I'd add two points. Firstly, the most expensive 5* hotels may require a joiner' s fee. Secondly, holding a visitor's ID card is a good thing, providing you with security...and is particularly helpful for a newbie.
Gay hotels in Pattaya always did (do?) this, phoning when the visitor left to ensure all was well. It also enables reception to check that the guy is not under-age. This may be an issue if you use apps.

Sounds good and safe with the ID and phoning.
So why do most people say its better to book a different Hotel for the night ?
I mean if you have everything locked in a safe or suitcase with double lock for example... are there other "risks" taking them to your Hotelroom ? besides theft i mean

[gerefan2]

So why do most people say its better to book a different Hotel for the night ?
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I’m not sure that’s right at all. I would say 99% of people use their own hotel!

[christianpfc]

So why do most people say its better to book a different Hotel for the night ?

Who says so? I know only one person who likes to change rooms just to get a change. I change hotel rooms only for two reasons: I'm not fully happy with the place and will come back to the same city/town, so I try to find somewhere that suits me better. When I meet many (one or more every day) boys for free, I change hotel every two or three nights before staff starts to talk about me (or rather say something to the boy). This won't be an issue in Pattaya, as neither staff nor your new friend will care how many else you had in your room.

[Max6969]

Who says so? I know only one person who likes to change rooms just to get a change. I change hotel rooms only for two reasons: I'm not fully happy with the place and will come back to the same city/town, so I try to find somewhere that suits me better. When I meet many (one or more every day) boys for free, I change hotel every two or three nights before staff starts to talk about me (or rather say something to the boy). This won't be an issue in Pattaya, as neither staff nor your new friend will care how many else you had in your room.

Well before i found this Forum i watched Youtube for info on Pattaya's nightlife, just saw another one just now actually (IT IS about Pattaya Women, not boys but i work with i find, not much Gay scene video's...)
aparently they CLAIM a woman you bring to your Hotel, could show up again since they know where you stay and cause problems if they see you with another woman. Not sure if the boys would do that... ? but i guess thats why