I'm finding the forum depressing at the moment. For obvious reasons. So let's have a discussion about our Thai friends, particularly for those of us who are missing them deeply.
Who appreciates the highly -regarded Thai ideal of "jai yen" (literally, a cool heart)?
It's a standing joke between P. and me that he enjoys our simple pleasures quietly and in a restrained manner. I know him well enough to recognise when he's enjoying himself at a particularly good dinner, or during a walk on the beach, or whatever. Sometimes, I chide him, teasingly, about this. "I know what's in my heart," he says.
Twelve years ago he was faced by a devastating family crisis which I knew affected him deeply. Only rarely did he allow his emotions to get the better of him. A friend of his talked to me about this admiringly. "That's P," he said, "he's so jai yen."
We British are often mocked for our "stiff upper lip" response to problems. However, no one I've met has faced both happiness and tragedy with such moderation, equanimity and restraint.
When I first knew him, I'd tell him that ,one day, he'd return to the monastery in Kamphaeng Phaet which he'd just left and become a monk. He'd laugh and tell me he was too happy in Pattaya, living a gay life with his friends. But I think that much of what he learnt as a Buddhist will always remain with him. Particularly his jai yen.