A Question For Tourists

[AsDaRa]

I don't do anal sex - give or take. Purely a personal preference. I like to 'samoke' a boy and kiss. So being hard is not a big deal for me. My question wasn't really about the physical aspect of sex. More about desire.

The desire is there with me a lot. In Thailand with so many nice boys, I want sex as often as possible.

Only lately, certainly nearing end of trip, I dont get hard or hard enough anymore. Not even once a day. It is the pressure of short time (your time is restricted) and also the fact this has happened before you now think about it and psychological factors come into play. I had wished to receive some tips (besides Viagra).

There is no technical problem with me, because the first day of the trip I get hard in no time and even 3 times cuming that day is no issue. So with me the problem is non-technical. Somehow my body needs more time now to recover from sex. I dont need a urologist, but a psychiatrist or some tips from forum members.

[AsDaRa]

These worked by improving my erection but the sex was less enjoyable and cumming harder

I am thinking now also about going the Viagra route, but I not understand how the sex is then less enjoyable. Can you please elaborate.

[a447]

I just don't feel like sex. Am I odd?

No, not odd. Just different.

AsDaRa, if you can't get it up 3 times a day at age 47, I think there is more than just a psychological problem.

As for a way around the anxiety regarding whether or not you'll be able to get hard, there's an easy solution. Find a guy you are really attracted to and off him every night (and every day, too!). You will quickly get to know each other really well and what each of you expects in bed. You will soon be totally relaxed with each other and the pressure will be off both of you. If you are really sexuallly attracted to him, nature will take over.

In Bangkok I have a regular guy who I see every afternoon. I've done so for years and the sex is perfect. At night I off someone else from his bar or sometimes go to Screwboys or some other bar. That's when I get a bit anxious, as I don't know the guy and am not sure how things are going to turn out. But I can still get it up, as the desire is definitely there. But twice a day is enough when on holiday. I don't have sex twice a day at home.

I became a bottom a few years ago so now I'm versatile. Should (when?) the day comes when I can no longer get it up and be a top, I certainly don't be turning to Viagra - I will just become a bottom. Problem solved.

I think the desire will always be there.

[Asia Traveler]

Make an appointment at Bangkok Hospital with a Urologist. They will give you an assessment and provide you with detailed explanations of what is going on and your options. If it is a Viagra like drug they are very cheap in Thailand. If you are in USA and want to try Viagra with out having to talk face to face with an MD try GetRoman.com they are a legitimate online supplier that will do a medical interview with MD and then ship directly to you discretely. Be warned Viagra is very expensive.

[AsDaRa]

No, not odd. Just different.

AsDaRa, if you can't get it up 3 times a day at age 47, I think there is more than just a psychological problem.

Well it is psychological because on the first day I had 3 times sex and came 3 times. There is no technical issue thus to get it up 3 times. How you explain this? Looks to me that technically all is working fine. But after one week of daily sex I can't. Well not in a 5 minute time frame. I think if you take a lot of time (which you have during long time) it will happen. But I do not do long time.

[goji]

This is pure inquisitiveness. When you're on holiday in LoS, do you off a boy every night?

I have longer holidays of several months. Now over 50, I don't off a boy every day. When in Pattaya and Bangkok, I off at least 2/3rds of the days, but this can be much lower when travelling around elsewhere.

Hypothetically, if I did just a 2 week holiday, I would probably spend the whole lot in Bangkok & Pattaya, with a boy every day, although performance at the end would not be as good as at the start.

As for ideas about getting testosterone checked, that is merely diagnosis. Fixing it would be another matter.

[joe552]

AsDaRa, you mentioned a 5 minute time frame. That's surely taking short time to new limits? Short time to me is around an hour.

[dinagam]

Short time period is one hour or more.
However, speedy Gonzalez could be spraying the bullets after just five minutes.

[NitNoi]

After many LOS vacations the novelty wears off. Don't worry about it, just relax and enjoy!
Viagra will help with performance anxiety.

[AsDaRa]

AsDaRa, you mentioned a 5 minute time frame. That's surely taking short time to new limits? Short time to me is around an hour.

I should have been more elaborate. Yes I know short time is around 1 hour, but kissing for 30 minutes to get hard is weird. I don't even have the patience for that. Take giving blow jobs. In porn movies it can take 15 minutes. To be frank a few minutes blowing a boy and I have had it. It gets boring quickly (for me). Receiving a blow job is a different story.

So when I do short time and I want to go to the fuck phase I need to get hard quick. Giving a blow job focuses my mind on giving the boy a nice good blowjob, it doesn't harden my cock. Being fucked (those few instances where I bottom) doesn't harden my cock also. Kissing a boy and feeling a boy's body hardens my cock. But on day 4 of the holiday after quite some sex the previous days I dont get hard anymore (or better rock hard: the type of hardness needed for fucking) from a 2 minute kiss. I need more time. 3/4 hardness is no problem, but rock hardness becomes the problem.

So when I want to go to the fuck phase and I just finished blowing a boy (which doesnt harden my cock) I need to get ROCK hard in 5 minutes or so for the fucking to start. Why 5 minutes: Because I do not have the patience to go then hugging and kissing for 30 minutes in a row. While nice, it also gets boring after a while.

Now its my turn to ask if I am weird: Your guys really not get bored giving 30 minutes blow jobs in a row and kissing for 30 minutes in a row? Am I werid to enjoy these acitivaties only for a few minutes?