When Barry met Leo

**frequent** · November 10th, 2018, 06:35

Having an acknowledgement from Matt that he doesn’t pay taxes anywhere is a first – after several digs from me. Undoubtedly part of being an Entitled Millennial. His justification is going to be how much he contributes to the local economy (as if the rest of us don’t) which is “better” than paying tax. It’s exactly how Donald Trump would respond. I see the date for his triumphant return to SE Asia keeps receding into the future, although in all other respects normal service has resumed

After three failed “husbands” (pause for sniggering) you’d think he’d realise the problem may be with him but I suspect that’s too much of a stretch for our Entitled Millennial. However, the notion of seeking out multiple fucks (he’s now going to embrace polygamy he says) for someone who is, as he claims, “legally blind” is one beyond my imagination. Will he use his newly minted personal assistant to do the vetting? How will he know that the person presenting himself as a frisky 22 year old is not in fact a raddled 72 year old?

Polyamory can be tricky to manage. I recall visiting the Amer Fort in Rajasthan where the rajah maintained a number of female sexual partners in separate rooms and visited each via a common corridor so the others would not know whom he was favouring. Is Matt proposing he’ll be the pasha and the inhabitants of the other bedrooms will be available only to him? Or is he proposing that they can also play among themselves to his exclusion? Only one at a time or will all-in orgies be allowed, nay, encouraged?

**cdnmatt** · November 10th, 2018, 10:19

Originally Posted by Blacktouch

Matt, you now have your passport, so what is stopping you going to Laos?

Once you are there, maybe, just maybe Leo will join you?

Maybe as you stayed away so long, he thinks you're not interested in him?

May I kindly ask, what is taking you so long to move to Laos?

Money. Ummm, prior to meeting Leo I sort of gave up on life, and didn't really push myself. I worked enough to give myself and my dogs a good, comfortable life, but that was it. I didn't push myself to my full potential.

Then Leo showed up in my life, and basically brought me back from the dead. He taught me how to love again. I began working hard again, but unfortunately for me, I went blind about 6 weeks after Leo moved in. Naturally, going blind takes a toll on your finances. I burned through my savings, plus help from my family, and we were poor for a while. Poor to the point Leo didn't eat for three days one time, because we simply didn't have any money, not even 20 baht for a bag of rice. He stuck by my side though, and was unwilling to leave me.

Going blind is really difficult, and I can't remember how many times exactly I tried to commit suicide, but Leo was there to stop me each time. I remember my father flew out from Canada twice and showed up in Kgon Kaen without telling me, trying to bring me back to Canada. Both times I adamantly refused, as I was unwilling to leave either, Leo or my dogs.

I also made myself quite sick several times due to poor diet, to the point I was bed ridden at times. Leo's the one who did all the shopping, ensured I ate properly, and got back on my feet during these times.

We went through some really rough financial times together, but due to his love and support, I was able to get myself back on track. He simply wouldn't stop believing in me, and wouldn't let me give up hope. The two of us together managed to figure out this whole blind thing, and I was able to begin bringing in decent money again, and more than enough to give us a good life, plus had enough saved up to move to Vientiane and put 6 months rent down on a house.

Then I got banged up at the Laos border, and deported to Canada. Leo slept with me in the jail cell in Nong Khai, he flew with me to Bangkok, he visited me at the IDC, he kept in contact with my mother to keep her calm and arrange my deportation, he was there at the BKK airport after I was transported via prison truck to say goodbye. He wasn't willing to leave my side until he knew I was safely on an airplane back to Canada.

Naturally, upon returning to Canada I went through depression, culture shock, fighting with my family, etc. Leo went through quite a bit himself during this time.

My work in Khon Kaen was enough to take good care of us, but it wasn't really sustainable in the long term -- due to going blind I couldn't really develop with my previous platform, plus my software was outdated anyway. Since I was in the safety of Canada and my parents place, I decided to go for the long-term game. I developed an entire new software platform that is / will be open sourced, I taught myself various new technologies, I fostered new business relationships, etc. These things take time.

I was a week or two away from completing that initial contract, and getting the remaining $20k USD owed, and being in Vientiane. Then this winter is / was looking excellent for me. Once I have everything in place, the buy-in for those distributor contracts will go up to around $50k at least, plus I structured the business deals to be mutually benefical and promote a high level of synergy, so each distributor would probably bring me in around $60k/year after the initial buy-in. Not to mention, all the other revenue sources I will be pursuing. I've done a distributor program like this in the past, it works, and works well, so I have the expereience and skills necessary to pull it off.

I was a week or two away from getting there, then one morning I got that phone call. I just assumed Leo was in his village waiting for me, and instead I heard Leo in an excited tone say, "here, talk to Barry!", and I ended up talking with some 31 year old dude from Ireland. I will never forget that call, as it absolutely crushed me.

The next 6 weeks or so is a blur for me, and I don't really remember a whole lot. I remember Leo calling me and telling me he tried to kill himself. Then I remember later messages from him saying he's find and doesn't care about us. Then messages begging me to come back to him. Then that phone call saying he's with Tobi now, so he can take care of me in Vientiane, but no more sex. He quickly recanted on that mindset after talking with me for a quick few minutes. I remember we had some house gusts during that time. I remember my parents took off for a weekend, so it was just me and the cat. That's about it, and the rest is just a blur.

At least Leo apologized, as 13 years later, I have yet to get an apology from my first husband. At least Leo owns this, and takes responsibility for what he did. He's apologized many times now, but a couple days ago was the most sincere apology I got from me. I proceeded to ask him things like, "What did I do wrong? I tried to be a good husband, and I loved you very much, but what could I have done differently to make things better?".

He just responded saying noting, and it's all because of him, and I'm "very very very good". So I asked if I'm so good, why doesn't he want to be with me? He just said because he believes he's not worthy of me, and is afriad of hurting me even more.

So I have no idea. I don't even know what I want anymore, nor does he, hence why he has yet to tell me to fuck off and leave him alone. Again, just let him see me in person again, and I bet this all changes in 5 seconds.

There, hopefully that clarifies things a little more. To me at least, he's hardly just another poor rice farmer who happens to have a nice ass. So this advice of "just get a new boy" doesn't really work that easily.

**cdnmatt** · November 10th, 2018, 10:56

PS. Oh, and the other reason for the new delay is I had to build a repour with Kong, since Leo fucked off on me. I'm blind now, so I can't just head out to the other side of the world easily. I need someone on the other end who I can trust, so I had to build a friendship with Kong before I was comfortable leaving. I have that friendship now, and I trust him enough to take good care of me.

Now I just need to quickly finish up this contract, get my $20k, and I'm out of here.

**frequent** · November 10th, 2018, 11:27