My situation is perhaps a little different. I sold my homes in the US and just keep an amount on deposit there in the unlikely event that I would choose to be medevaced, at a cost of 25-50K, to spend the last weeks of my life in an American hospital. As far as I can see, that is not going to happen as long as I am compos mentis. I am going to leave the world much more economically here in Vietnam. The money remaining in the States will to go to my sisters.
Here in Vietnam, my partner of 18 years is the legal owner of the five properties that I have purchased and has the entry code to the safe in which we keep a substantial amount of dollars (not trusting the local banks whose directors and managers are routinely prosecuted for theft and mismanagement). So there would be no incentive for him to assist me in a “fall” from our sixth floor balcony.
Would he fritter away his (relative) fortune after I’m gone? I tend to agree with Nirish’s solicitor that it would be wrong to try and micro-manage someone else’s life/spending after my death. At that time, my partner will note that there are no more monthly deposits coming into his account from the US and it is up to him to figure out how the property and cash should best be used for the remaining 25-30 years of his life.