I need some help...

[frequent]

For the record I'm not naive enough to suggest that's not or has never or will ever be case, I meant blatant as in "majorly", aside from that I just try not to sweat the small stuff anymore in life, difficult at times but I try.

Yes but it's a question of what is "the small stuff". Everyone will have a different point of view on that

[paborn]

Very differing points of view, in fact, in my experience people fall out over the dumbest little things. Because that little thing suddenly looms very large in someone's mind.