I offed him last night, do I want to do so again tonight?

[poshglasgow]

I often find myself caught up in the following scenario:

I off a certain boy (A) from a bar and we enjoy each other's company. I say that I will see him again.

The next night I enter the same bar in which I found boy (A) but take a huge fancy to another boy (B), that I think I might off.

Boy (A) is making all kinds of gestures seeking to step off the stage and sit with me, but I hold back and smile awkwardly, for I am very interested in boy (B).

This is uncomfortable; I hate the thought of upsetting boy (A) but I very much want boy (B) to come and sit with me.

I leave the bar with Boy (B), passing a rather despondent boy (A), who watches me from the stage as I move off with my new 'catch of the day'.

How do others manage this kind of scenario?

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[Josan]

I do the same thing. The only thing I add is as I am leaving with B I go up to the stage and give A 100 baht and say, 'check you later'.

[colmx]

I hand (A) 200B in guilt money on my way out the door....
That way he's kept sweet in case (B) is a dud

[goji]

Yes, I've been there.

1 I try to set expectations by explaining that I'm a butterfly on the first date. Particularly if it's a gogo bar with more than one cute lad.

2 I also ask myself "would he go with me if I'm not paying ?". The answer is obviously no, so I should keep that in mind and resist any pressure, because I choose how my money is spent.

3 Remember they have seen it all before & are most likely only pressurizing you because they know it's a good sales tactic.

4 There is always the option of visiting different bars for the next couple of nights.

[paborn]

Same as Colmx - 200 as I leave. I have also called both boys over , bought drinks and made the choice , again with the extra tip. I do this so as to acknowledge the guy from last night. Somehow it seems more polite. Of course when I sit at toy boys with my favorite manager he has made my butterfly status clear.

[Oceans]

The boys seem to have a way to make you feel guilty, but keep in mind, 5 seconds after you leave he doesn’t even remember you where there. They are so used to being told No, it has barely any efffect on them.

[frequent]

A variation on Buyer's Remorse? I try not to make such commitments, invariably answering the inevitable question "Do you have a boyfriend?" in the affirmative, saying he's up-country (Surin, Udon, Ubon, Roi Et, Yasothon, Sisaket - take any one at random) if further particulars are sought

[kittyboy]

A variation on Buyer's Remorse? I try not to make such commitments, invariably answering the inevitable question "Do you have a boyfriend?" in the affirmative, saying he's up-country (Surin, Udon, Ubon, Roi Et, Yasothon, Sisaket - take any one at random) if further particulars are sought

The OPs scenario is not really buyers remorse which would be that he regretted offing A.
This is more akin to diminishing marginal returns.
The utility or enjoyment of offing A the second time would be lower than the first time A was offed.
So the OP has decided to look at B to satisfy his needs.
The classic example is a first chocolate cookie after dinner. The first cookie you eat is great.
But you might be full and not desire another chocolate cookie.

The next day after dinner you say to yourself..hmm..what do I want for desert? Chocolate cookie?? and you answer no I think I will have something else as I had a chocolate cookie yesterday.
My advice is to off B and take a break from A. If A was fun then go back to A later

Econ 101...I suspect my old economics professors would be proud of me being able to explain the marginal utility of whoring in Thailand.

[Nirish guy]

....... you might be full and not desire another chocolate cookie. .

Alas if only that were the case but unfortunately my waistline screams otherwise as I ALWAYS want the other cookie - both metaphorically AND in terms of ACTUAL cookies it seems ! :-(

[kittyboy]

Alas if only that were the case but unfortunately my waistline screams otherwise as I ALWAYS want the other cookie - both metaphorically AND in terms of ACTUAL cookies it seems ! :-(

Presumably, You are a man with large appetites.
In that case I would go back to my advice -- do a three way. And as you said it would be like winning the lottery. You match up 6 balls.
Have fun - if you do have the 3 way..give us details.

It is funny how we develop a sense of loyalty to some of these boys even after 1 or 2 offs.
I take it as a sign that you and others (not everyone) have a kind heart.