Getting old

[a447]

But I have found that there are ways to appear much younger:
(1) I have recently lost weight, and am no longer fat. I am in much better shape.
(2) I keep my hair very short, or shave my head.
(3) I wear cheaper and more casual clothing.
(4) I always get enough sleep so that there are no bags under my eyes.....

If only it were that easy.

Nothing short of a face-lift would help me, but I think I've left my run a bit too late!

[kittyboy]

A few years ago I ran into a guy who was a long time pattaya expat. He was (as I recall) in his late 60s and had a face lift done in Thailand. He looked good..for a man in his late 60s. He easily looked 5-10 years younger. But is it worth the time and money etc..to have a face lift and go from looking like an older sexagenarian (65+) to a younger (65-) sexagenarian?

For me the answer is a resounding..probably. Nip and tuck me - I am vain. Toss in some liposuction and I might easily look 5 years younger.

Then hang out with people that are fat and ugly (the contrast effect) and I would really feel good about myself. (sarcasm alert for those who are inclined to the literal)

[StevieWonders]

I thought Thais call old men "Papa". It used to annoy the hell out of me before I realised it's a mark of respect, especially as I was barely 50 when it started. Like the Chinese who refer to every middle-aged woman of their acquaintance as "aunty".

[sglad]

Then hang out with people that are fat and ugly (the contrast effect) and I would really feel good about myself.

Interesting. Just wondering...is the "contrast effect" also responsible for the "paedophile effect"? What I mean is people often mistake an older farang who's with a younger Thai guy (or girl) to be a paedophile simply because the Thai guy looks much younger when with a much older man even if he (the Thai guy) is of legal age?

[a447]

...people often mistake an older farang who's with a younger Thai guy (or girl) to be a paedophile simply because the Thai guy looks much younger when with a much older man...

Have those people ever actually said something to you or given you disapproving looks? Or is that just your imagination?

I'm betting they couldn't care less.

[kittyboy]

Interesting. Just wondering...is the "contrast effect" also responsible for the "paedophile effect"? What I mean is people often mistake an older farang who's with a younger Thai guy (or girl) to be a paedophile simply because the Thai guy looks much younger when with a much older man even if he (the Thai guy) is of legal age?

I am not sure if the contrast effect is what you described.
You see the contrast effect everywhere. We do not make decisions/choices in isolation we compare our surroundings and make choices based on the comparisons we make.
In a bar we might look around and pick the best looking guy - in the bar.
This is how we make decisions in general. In general. I am sure one of the posters will wheeze in with..well what about xxxx..I remember once when I xxx..OK great..but read my post..In general not always but in general people make decisions by making comparisons to what is in the environment.

[mr giggles]

I am not sure if the contrast effect is what you described.
You see the contrast effect everywhere. We do not make decisions/choices in isolation we compare our surroundings and make choices based on the comparisons we make.
In a bar we might look around and pick the best looking guy - in the bar.
This is how we make decisions in general. In general. I am sure one of the posters will wheeze in with..well what about xxxx..I remember once when I xxx..OK great..but read my post..In general not always but in general people make decisions by making comparisons to what is in the environment.

Read this twice - what language is it?

[francois]

Read this twice - what language is it?

kittyboy is from Georgia (USA) and they speak that way down there.

[dinagam]

Wait until they finally sing the blues...

[kittyboy]

Read this twice - what language is it?

Lol. Hmm. It is sort of English. Academic speak.

The contrast effect.. if I am average looking and around ugly people I look above average. If I an average and around above average looking people I look below average.