A lesson from the straight world....

[bkkguy]

I thought that was quite evident from several of your posts recently and I'm surprised bkkguy can't see that.

I was in good (?) company - but I at least least was challenging the post unlike forum bastions like a447, bobsaigon2, dinagam, Jellybean, snotface, splinter1949 and TaoR who all "liked" the original kittyboy post despite its political incorrectness and logical inconsistencies

bkkguy

[kittyboy]

I was in good (?) company - but I at least least was challenging the post unlike forum bastions like a447, bobsaigon2, dinagam, Jellybean, snotface, splinter1949 and TaoR who all "liked" the original kittyboy post despite its political incorrectness and logical inconsistencies

bkkguy

Oh..the horror..political incorrectness and logical inconsistencies..OHHHH NO.
This is a free form posting board..there are no requirements for either PC or logic.

[goji]

this conclusion is obviously not based on the anecdote preceding it
bkkguy

If that is a conclusion, you could well be correct. However, I don't read that as a conclusion.

I see one paragraph about farang being exploited by the boys. Then a separate paragraph about how far boys are to be trusted & how they think.

[Eddie]

The message next to the swinging body of the "40 year old man" said in English: "Are you happy now? You and your family have stolen everything from me including my daughter and my life. Now you have all exactly as you wanted."

I think the answer to that is a resounding YES! She IS happy. He's saved her the trouble of waiting for him to drink himself to death or getting her Thai boyfriend to arrange an "accident". His story dies with him but she's free to rewrite the history of their relationship: he was an abusive husband, he was a drunk & a womaniser, he tried to rape her sister, etc. And the whole village will go with that narrative while she gets everything exactly as she wanted. He'll be forgotten in two months.

Silly man.

[kittyboy]

I think the answer to that is a resounding YES! She IS happy. He's saved her the trouble of waiting for him to drink himself to death or getting her Thai boyfriend to arrange an "accident". His story dies with him but she's free to rewrite the history of their relationship: he was an abusive husband, he was a drunk & a womaniser, he tried to rape her sister, etc. And the whole village will go with that narrative while she gets everything exactly as she wanted. He'll be forgotten in two months.

Silly man.

Ouch.. I suspect what you wrote is largely true.

The story is very sad.

[a447]

The story is very sad.

Yet it is one we hear so often.

There was a documentary series broadcast in Australia last year about Aussies who get into trouble in Thailand. And it was the same story, over and over again - bar girls dragging guys into their trap (so to speak), taking all their money and then dumping them. They had lost their life savings.

There was one story about a girl who demanded her boyfriend buy her parents a house in Issan. As he suspected she was also fucking other farang, he refused so she stole his passport and demanded 100,000 baht to return it.

He went to the police, who found the girl and then demanded he pay her the money!

I wonder what their take was.

[kittyboy]

Yet it is one we hear so often.

There was a documentary series broadcast in Australia last year about Aussies who get into trouble in Thailand. And it was the same story, over and over again - bar girls dragging guys into their trap (so to speak), taking all their money and then dumping them. They had lost their life savings.

There was one story about a girl who demanded her boyfriend buy her parents a house in Issan. As he suspected she was also fucking other farang, he refused so she stole his passport and demanded 100,000 baht to return it.

He went to the police, who found the girl and then demanded he pay her the money!

I wonder what their take was.

I am a chatter upper which means I like to talk to people about their lives. Shop owners..store clerks..my administrative assistants..my students..etc.
Mostly it is because I am intensely interested in the stories of people...everyone has a story..often boring and or just prosaic. But everyone has a story and it honors our common humanity by at least pretending to be interested.

I chat up farangs in thailand and I have met quite a few farang who have thai partners..spouses..wives..or boyfriends who settled down and made lives for themselves in thailand. What the ratio is of success to failure?? I have no idea..but I suspect that there are more failures. More bar girls/boys and transient customers who cycle through buying sex and falling for the illusion of that they have found love or found something more than a commercial transaction.

A friend and I joked that the bar boys/girls motto was "I love you short time forever as long as you pay".

[DaveyJonesLocker]

I... by at least pretending to be interested.

Yes!

[Blacktouch]

We are just an ATM to these Thai boys and girls.

Some get away with it, loads don't. Some are genuine love, most are not.

It would be interested to know the percentage of this is?

And the sad thing is, this will continue on and on again.

[a447]

Probably one way to determine whether or not the bf or gf was genuine would be to see if they'd be willing to give up their life in Thailand and move with you back home.

That way they would also have a difficult time getting access to your money.