Taking Your New Thai Friend to a Mainstream Hotel in Pattaya

[a447]

So you're keen on setting a good example for their kids? Why do you assume they disapprove? How do you know they're not thinking "now here's an elderly grandparent with their foster Asian grandchild...what a lovely picture but perhaps they shouldn't be out too late on a school night"? Those stares could just be parental concern from one loving family unit to another.

Lol. That's actually quite funny. Grandpa with his Asian foster grandchild, coming back after a night out on the town - and on a school night, to boot!

The guys I'd be with in the elevator would look more like teachers than students. More like a son than a grandson. I've stated my preference for older guys many times, including in my trip reports. Nothing new there. One of my regulars in Bangkok is 36 years old, for Christ's sake!

So the prostitute is to blame for your embarrassment and discomfort?

Nobody is to blame for anything.

People are usually embarrassed because they have done something wrong or were caught doing something wrong.

No. It's a feeling of discomfort, believing that I'm displaying a side to myself that I would not like others to see.

Is also a feeling many here would get if their parents started talking in front of them about the hot sex they enjoyed last night

Very uncomfortable. But no shame or guilt involved.

Your definition of "embarrassing" is actually my definition of "guilt".

I've expressed this same opinion on sharing elevators a number of times in the past. It's nothing new. I was merely making a casual observation in answer to the OP. That's all.

You are making a desperate attempt to read something into my post which isn't there.

[Blacktouch]

"caught" in the sense of being trapped. No escape from them. You are subject to their stares of disapproval and maybe even hostility until one of you gets out of the elevator.

And not a particularly edifying scene for their kids to have someone with a prostitute standing next to them.

But no guilt.

Just embarrassment - discomfort, you could say. Both for myself and the guy I have in tow. He has feelings, too, you know.

First of all, it's none of their business who your in the elevator with. After all the guy could be just a friend, tour guide, hotel staff etc.

[scottish-guy]

If you think there are prying eyes and catty comments in a mainstream hotel, multiply that by 10 or 100 in a gay one.

Which is why I have almost only stayed in the mainstream version ever since the novelty of gay hotels wore off maybe 30 years ago*





*(sole exception being the Copa Hotel in January one year when I arrived in Thailand unexpectedly and without any reservation)

[a447]

Walking down the street with a guy in tow in a gay area of town doesn't faze me at all. However, there are some guys who start off walking a few steps behind me and stay there until we reach the hotel. I understand they do not want to be seen with their customer, and that's fine. At least they don't walk on the other side of the road!

A new guy I offed every day in Bangkok recently had me leave the bar first - he would then meet me 10 minutes later in the hotel lobby.

When I'm being a sex tourist I just want to be among other like-minded people. It's as simple as that. We are all involved in similar activities and so nobody bats an eyelid. And it easy engaging them in conversation.

Your typical family is not like-minded, and so I feel uncomfortable being with them, be it in an elevator, by the pool or in the hotel restaurant at breakfast. That the same goes for the guy I'm with is hardly surprising.

[goji]

A new guy I offed every day in Bangkok recently had me leave the bar first - he would then meet me 10 minutes later in the hotel lobby.

Well, it may be his home town. A little bit of discretion is understandable in the circumstances.

[a447]

Not when the surrounding streets are full of elderly farang and their much younger bar boys.

I doubt people would be so easily fooled.

Perhaps it would be different in a non-gay area where they would not put 2 and 2 together. I wouldn't have a problem sitting in a restaurant in the Bangkok Mandarin Oriental Hotel, for example.

And of course, it's not anyone else's business. But Istill feel uncomfortable, regardless.

That's just me. I understand that others feel differently.

[NitNoi]

Straights often refer to the "walk of shame" as they cross the lobby with their paid companion. This is normal for those of us who have some concern for the perceptions of others.

[a447]

Yep, totally understandable.

[Blacktouch]

Yep, totally understandable.

I fully understand where you're coming from.

Back in January having dinner with two friends at Deli restaurant one evening, an elderly gentleman walked in with a much younger guy and everybody sitting at their tables was staring at them. But the couple did not care one little bit. And rightly so. But I guess most people will feel embarrassed.

[scottish-guy]

Yeah that's why, when picking up in my home city, I put them in the boot of the car.

Knocking them out with chloroform is just to prevent an anxiety attack due to claustrophobia - honest.