Up to you

[joe552]

Is this the most infuriating phrase in the English language? Just talking to my friend about our trip to KK. You want to go for 2 or 3 days, sez I. Up to you, sez he. No, up to you sez I. No up to you sez he. I'm getting annoyed at this stage, and he finally settles on 2 days (3 days, 2 nights).

I got the same answer when I asked about sex.

I know we have the money, and therefore the power, but when you say to him, where you want to eat you're trying to share some of that power. I might just slap the first person who says it to me in Thailand. It won't change the culture, but it might make me feel better.

And then, you're chatting away (on Facebook in our case) and he suddenly goes silent. What happened to "Joe now I go eat". Fine. But to just just stop in the middle of a conversation.

Ah, I think I'll just stay home.

[catawampuscat]

Hey Joe, keep it up, you’re almost to 4000 posts.

[Smiles]

" ... I might just slap the first person who says it to me in Thailand ..".

Say no more!

[scottish-guy]

"Up to you" is certainly in the top two of the nominations for the Teeth Gnashingly Infuriating Statements Awards (SE Asia category) - the other being the ubiquitous "You don't understand me"

[Nirish guy]

Closely followed by "hurry up, you cum now" ( which of course only makes me even more determined NOT to just to annoy the buggers !)

[cdnmatt]

I like "up to you", and use it all the time. It's a good thing. It let's everyone be who they are instead of who others want them to be.

[Chuai-Duai]

My Thai boyfriend uses the single word "later" as the answer to many questions. ie "Do you want to go out?" "Later". "Are you ever going to get out of bed" "Later". "When are we going to decide about (insert question here)" "Later".

It has the merit from his point of view that he has answered the question without committing himself to anything.

He also uses "up to you" far more than I would like.

[scottish-guy]

I frequently get "LAH" or sometimes even "MAH" appended to the end of sentences.

[joe552]

Which mean what, SG?

[arsenal]

You can dress it up however you like but if you're paying for everything and making all the decisions he's not your boyfriend. He's your employee. I bet he doesn't say 'up to you' to his friends or siblings every time a decision needs to be made.