Child via surrogate?

[cdnmatt]

Has anyone ever done this, or thought about doing it? Having a child via surrogate mother?

The family has had quite a bit of time to talk in the last couple days, and naturally our relationship came up. Leo quite obviously badly wants to be a father, and won't stop until he gets kids, so the issue of his nephews / cousins came up. The sisters don't agree, but too bad, because that's what's happening.

Nonetheless, the one sister I guess offered to be a surrogate for us, and she only requested 200,000 baht. I have to admit, that's actually quite reasonable to carry a baby for 9 months. Plus I don't even have to have sex with here, and instead just need to go to a hospital and cum in a petri dish. Too bad I can't see porn anymore, because that would probably come in handy.

I'm not doing it, or at least not now. There's no way I'm bringing a new child into this world right now, but maybe later. Especially since there's two kids that are alive now, and could use our help yesterday. If we can do good by them, then maybe we can discuss the possibility of making our own child via surrogate.

Anyway, have any of you ever done that, or thought about it?

[neddy3]

His mother is dying, and you're coming up with this gross crap?

[cdnmatt]

His mother is dying, and you're coming up with this gross crap?

I've been told not to worry about anything. I'm just following orders.

I don't know what's going on, and I'm sure he's hiding things from me, so as not to worry, because he's like that. She's in ICU anyway, so they don't have much access to her. I think it's 1 hour visitations twice a day is all they get.

[joe552]

I'm not sure how I feel about surrogacy. Seems to me there are already enough children on the planet. We should be taking care of them before creating new ones.

Having said that, I donated sperm to a lesbian friend, about 25 years ago. She had a daughter, who is a beautiful young woman (I couldn't resist searching for her on the net recently).

I never had any desire to be a father, but I think I'd prefer to adopt. I'm not sure about the long term effects surrogacy has on the mother.

So, not sure.

[bobsaigon2]

Matt, you are intent on adopting two young children in the family and in addition you are considering having a child by a surrogate mother?

Unless the prospect of cumming in a petri dish is overwhelmingly attractive to you, would it not be more convenient to just wait till one of the space ships arrives from your home planet with a fresh shipment of humanoids for you to choose from? No need for Leo to change diapers, no bottles to prepare, no getting up two or three times a night, etc.

[cdnmatt]

Yeah, but Leo is quite decided on having a white kid for some reason. He wants a "luuk krueng" (literally translated, "half child").

Personally, I see it the other way around. Why make a new child, when there's already children who need our love and support here and now? We could give two existing kids a shot at a good future, whereas if they stay in the village, the have virtually no hope at all. Why not concentrate on that, versus bringing a new child into this world?

Apparently, the family doesn't agree, and thinks we should just make our own child. Bud no, I'm not doing that, and that option isn't on the table at the moment.

[joe552]

Matt, I'm confused. If that option isn't on the table, why did you start the thread?

[cdnmatt]

Matt, I'm confused. If that option isn't on the table, why did you start the thread?

Because Leo hasn't shut up about it for a good 6 months. He wants a farang child, and I'm just not willing to do it right now. Maybe in a year or so, but not now. Let's take those two kids in the village first, and if we can prove ourselves as good parents, maybe we can discuss the option of a surrogate then.

The family is sitting in the hospital waiting room, and sleeping there, so this came up. His older sister offered to be a surrogate for us. That's why the thread now.

[joe552]

Not directed at you Matt, but part of me feels like surrogacy is like buying a baby. And I'm not comfortable with that.

[cdnmatt]

Not directed at you Matt, but part of me feels like surrogacy is like buying a baby. And I'm not comfortable with that.

Personally, I'm fine with the surrogate route, and I can understand his feelings. Obviously, we can't make a child together, so my sperm mixed with his sister's eggs is the best we're going to get, and I'm fine with that.

What I'm not fine with is we don't currently have a strong enough life to bring a new child into this world. Hopefully that will change in the near future, and looks like it will, but right now, entertaining the idea of bringing a new child into this world isn't on the table for me.

On the other hand, those two kids who are currently sitting in the village are already alive and kicking. Let's go help them first, and worry about the surrogate route later.