Try telling that to a middle-class Thai gay who has to conceal his sexual identity from parents and employers for fear of the repercussions. On your 'don't ask, don't tell ' point, it makes sense if you are versatile in your sexual preferences and don't expect to become emotionally involved with your partners. In my case I am a top and want only bottoms as partners. The only exception to that is if a boy is drop-dead gorgeous in which case I am just delighted to share his gorgeousness for a few minutes, even if only touching and sucking is involved. In addition I know that I am susceptible to emotional entanglement and feel more comfortable knowing that my partner is also gay. I don't want to be walking down the street with him when a pretty girl comes along and see him ogling her; it would create a sense of apartness in me. Of course having a gay partner is no guarantee of success as I know very well, but I feel more of a sense of common interests there. This is a subjective area. I know there are people on this board who prefer straight partners. It seems odd to me but if it works for them good luck to them.Originally Posted by frequent
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