Ever wanted children?

[joe552]

I know there are some members who are fathers. For the rest, have you ever thought about having children? Either through surrogacy or adoption?

When I lived in England (late 80s/early 90s) I donated sperm to a good friend, a lesbian I'd met on a kibbutz in Israel, and who's from Edinburgh, but long term resident of Newcastle. To be honest, I never thought it would work, but after 3 months she was pregnant, and gave birth to a baby daughter. Part of the agreement we had was that I would have no contact with the child, which was easy to agree to, when I didn't believe there would be a child. But when she was born, I felt a little tug on the heartstrings, but I stuck with the agreement. I have to admit looking her up online a couple of years ago (just once) and she's a beautiful young woman in her 20s.

Apart from that, I've never really had a desire to be a father. How about you?

[bobsaigon2]

Absolutely. Not. Never.

Looking after dogs is about as paternal as I choose to get. And they don't usually live more than 10 years, whereas children at 10 are just starting on their life long presentation of problems which require your attention.

I think your situation was perfect Joe. Just assist in the conception and leave the lady to raise the child. That is as involved as I would care to get.

[scottish-guy]

I think the title of your Thread may attract the wrong sorts

[joe552]

I hate it when you equivocate, bob - tell us straight what you really feel.

[cdnmatt]

Back in my mid-20s when I had a strong relationship with my ex-husband, I really wanted to be a father. Unfortunately, that relationship went tits up, and I forgot about / dismissed the idea since then.

That's changed a bit again, now that Leo and myself are together, and are about as strong as human relationships get. He REALLY wants to be a father, and has reignited that passion in me as well.

Short answer? Yes.

[joe552]

I think the title of your Thread may attract the wrong sorts

haha, that absolutely never occurred to me. I'm sure the mods are well capable of keeping us on the straight and narrow.

[joe552]

so when's it going to happen, Matt?

[cdnmatt]

Hoping to be settled into a new house in Vientiane by Jan 5th. From there, give us a month to get settled and find our bearings. I'm blind, so will take me a bit of time.

After that, we'll probably head out to the village every weekend for a month or more, just to spend time with the kids, their parents and everyone, to gto know each other a bit. From there, play it by ear, and see what happens. Whether Leo and myself are truly up for the task, and whether the kids even want to come with us, although I'm sure they will. I'm quite confident that 10 year old doesn't enjoy hauling ass on the rice farm 11 hours/day, just so he can have some sticky rice, bamboo, and maybe a boiled frog he caught for dinner.

Leo wants a farang child, and has asked several times if I'm willing to go the surrogate route. Ummm, yeah.... maybe honey, but let's hold that little thought for now. Before we go make a new kid, let's try our parenting skills out on a couple kids who are already here, currently have no hope at a decent future, and have a mother who doesn't even want them because she's unable to take care of them. If that goes well, sure, maybe we can get them a little brother or sister sometime in the future.

[latintopxxx]

NO..(scream..run for the hills...)

[latintopxxx]

they are the worst form of venereal disease..take forever to go away