English? Your doctor wants to know if you're a poof

[Nirish guy]

For once I agree with LT- I tell my doctor(s) ( as the chances of actually speaking to your own doctor here and not some in for the day locum are now almost impossible it seems) - but I tell my Doc's everything, whether they like it or ask or not and have had many many annoying conversations where I have to put them right i.e "ohhh you've been to Thailand, did you have sex with a sex worker whilst there !?" - why next question then is of course " can you define a sex worker for me so i can answer that and tell me why you're asking" - they then launch into a speech about the WOMEN there and how the street walkers / women in the bars could have HIV etc, I have to remind them that Ive already told them I'm gay ( ohh apologies blah blah blah) I then go on to ask so, is I guy who I met on Gay romeo who works in an internet cafe and I took for dinner and then fucked a sex worker ? "no, no. that's not what we mean by sex worker ....says I but you do realise that he's meeting me and other versions of me 6 nights a week ( if he's lucky) and fucking them all either for dinner or 1000 "tip" if he's lucky, so, remind me what the difference is again and how I'm at less risk fucking him again ? Yep, I've had some very interesting moral judgement chat's at my Doc's and also amazingly at my local STI clinic where you would THINK that they would know better - but apparently not.

In general the "asking if you're gay" think is being welcomed by the gay community and the organisations fighting for gay rights etc on the basis that a) we've nothing to hide and if it helps us get more accurate health treatment then that can only be a good thing. Also at some other level the Health boards are REQUIRED now to set their care to the needs of their patients and if "gays" don't exist ( as we were never counted) then we literally dont' count when it comes to allocation of budgets for health programmes etc.

And if you chose not to answer, it's no big deal, your answer is simply listed as "not stated". So no big there - and hell if it helps one ow two guys to say "fuck it, yeah I'm gay" well, that to me can only be a good thing for their mental health as well as physical.