Advice for a newbie to Thailand

[Mickp]

He'll be soaking up the culture till his arse bleeds

Omg LOL .

I think I woke up my neighbours on this fine Saturday morning ! Lol

[Tintin]

Omega: For sightseeing in Thailand there are basically two options: a) visit the country side, and b) experience the big city (Bangkok).

For a) you could follow the blog of our member ChristianPFC, who traveled to every corner of Thailand:
www.christianpfc.blogspot.com

For b) I would suggest to check out the services of the Bangkok Vanguards. They let you see their city "through the eye of the local and to understand the challenges of an Asian megacity in the 21st century":
www.bangkokvanguards.com
http://www.bangkokvanguards.com/expe...ok-three-sixty

[cdnmatt]

Just a quick remark. As for soaking in the culture, I get that, but please know that takes years, and definitely isn't going to happen in a couple weeks. For example, I remember before people would always come up to me, say hi, start chatting me up and asking various questions... where you from, what are you doing, why do you walk, where do you live, why are you always alone, when when will you go back to your country?, etc....

Now I'm in the furthest thing from a tourist area, so if you're from the West and someone begins questioning you like that out of the blue, you're going to feel like they're interrogating you. When in reality, they're just being good Buddhists, are a little worried / curious about you, and want to ensure you're ok. They have only good intentions, but if you're from the West, you're naturally going to ask yourself, "what the hell does he/she want from me?", when in reality they're just ensuring you're ok.

That type of conditioning the West gives us takes years to strip away, and definitely won't happen during a 2 week vacation.

[sglad]

They're not friends as such, more friends of friends.
I often say what you wrote; why don't they walk away.
It's not as easy to walk away from a native ass'ole as you might think.

No, I don't think that. What you've described is classic battered wife's syndrome. Only this is worse because as a foreigner your friend has no rights whatsoever. If there's physical abuse and he goes to the police, they'll probably laugh him off and then call the Thai spouse and demand half of whatever he's getting from the old man in return for not taking action. Out of curiosity, are there farang-run support services for people being abused like your friend in the city where he is located? Trained support staff who can provide guidance and a listening ear? I'm not 100% sure but I think Chiang Mai has services like that but it would likely be run by missionaries or a faith-based organisation.

[sglad]

This is why it is important to use quality lubricant, and resist temptation of cheap coconut oil.

People use coconut oil?

[Mickp]

Your right Matty dear , reminds me of the time I saw this American guy drop his wallet in the Hilton Hotel Pattaya.

I had just come back from a day out so was still dressed in shirts and a T shirt.

I walked up to him proud that I could give his wallet back to him, As he was talking to a group of his friends all dressed up , I first said to the arrogant prick "hello how are you "

He stopped and looked me up and down with a snarly look , Probaly my long blonde wig and lipstick didnt fit into his circle,and said in his arrogant American accent

"Do I know YOU ?????????

I said no ya dont honey!!

Then one of his friends piped in "This is a private party pal "


"Ok hope you have a great time I said to them smiling .

Then I went up to my room opened the wallet to see over 40,000 baht in cash plus numerous credit cards !!!
Credit cards in the bin pet , cash in my purse

[sglad]

Is the world always so binary to you? It seems in your mind that I must be coming to Thailand for sex, or I'm not going to have any sex.


Is it not possible that I'm going to Thailand to see the sights, soak up the culture and enjoy a good party?

Yes, it's possible but what do you mean by 'party'?

[sglad]

Omega, you seem to think paying for sex is beneath you, cos you are young and never have to pay. If you stay in Bangkok, and are reasonably good looking you can score local guys, and they don't expect to be paid. Problem is, the guy needs to be into you, you can't simply pick a guy who you like. So that will limit your choices massively, unless you are seriously good looking. But for a small tip you get to pick pretty much who you like. Think of the 1000 or so baht as a tip, just as you tip a waiter, and you can pick up very handsome locals.

I wouldn't count on meeting foreigners for sex, tourists are usually looking for locals, and are not interested in another foreigner, again, unless you look devastatingly handsome like MikeP. Young Russians who I see in Pattaya Boyztown are usually feminine, and compared to locals very out of shape. If foreigners is who you like, much bigger selection where you live. There are Arabs in Pattaya, they look very, very tasty but nearly impossible to score, they move in hordes, very difficult to approach.

Some very broad generalisations here. No, you don't have to be "massively goodlooking" for someone to be attracted to you. If that were the case, only very goodlooking people would be having free sex. Rarely a day passes on these boards without some lumpy 80-year-old claiming that he is getting free sex from a nubile 19-year-old; are you suggesting that they are lying? Ahem.

Of course Omega might hit it off with someone based on mutual attraction. This is hardly a newsworthy phenomenon and I don't know why some are finding it so difficult to accept. People are attracted to each other, hit it off and hook up every minute of the day and most are not drop-dead gorgeous. Sure, he can pick a guy from a line up and pay him a 1000B for sex but the odds of him having a good time is unlikely to be the same as someone who is naturally attracted to him and mutually sought him out in the first place. Not everyone is contented with having sex with a guy who needs to whip out his mobile to watch porn in order to get stimulated. That has to be one of the most bizarre things I've ever heard yet it seems to happen frequently around here. And they are paying the "phone whipper" for his time. Weird.

[sglad]

Your right Matty dear , reminds me of the time I saw this American guy drop his wallet in the Hilton Hotel Pattaya.

I had just come back from a day out so was still dressed in shirts and a T shirt.

I walked up to him proud that I could give his wallet back to him, As he was talking to a group of his friends all dressed up , I first said to the arrogant prick "hello how are you "

He stopped and looked me up and down with a snarly look , Probaly my long blonde wig and lipstick didnt fit into his circle,and said in his arrogant American accent

"Do I know YOU ?????????

I said no ya dont honey!!

You should have said, "Not really hun but you left your underwear in my room last night. Please come and get it back later." Then wink, turn, wiggle your bum and walk off.

[whitemouse]

Some very broad generalisations here. No, you don't have to be "massively goodlooking" for someone to be attracted to you. If that were the case, only very goodlooking people would be having free sex.

Do not put words in my mouth, where did I say you have to be 'massively good looking' in order to have free sex? Quote me!

I said unless your are very good looking, your choices are limited, you'll go with guys who chose you. If you are willing to pay, you choose who you pick. If you are willing to pay, you can play in higher than your own league.

Besides, I was being kind, I left out that if you are hoping to pick up best guy in a club, a guy you really are after, your exact type, not only do you have to be extremely attractive (maybe Omega is), you better be under 25.

Your 'phone whipper' stuff has nothing to do with me, nor my post, no need to quote me in order to describe your experiences with phones.