Good luck with that one - it depends what you're looking for.
Gaythailand is all very genteel and respectable - until they fall out amongst themselves and then it's every bit as bitchy as here.
As for Gaybutton - well (as I think he'd admit himself) you don't get to post anything he doesn't approve of. It doesn't get very bitchy because he'd just delete your comments if it did.
Here you at least get to say what you want (within reason) and have a good old cyber punch-up now and again - which suits me down to the ground.
But, as the Thai boys say - "Up to You!"