I posting this story under a different user name. If this somehow circumvents rules and regulations, please understand that I am posting this to prevent easy searching for my regular username, as it will easily produce results.
Now I am posting this not necessarily to get advice, even though that is appreciated. I am just posting this to see what (if any) reactions I get from generally much older persons.
I’m posting this in the gay Thailand forum, even though none of the persons involved are actually Thai. But it’s gay and it did happen (is happening) partially in Thailand, so I do see the relevance.
First a little background. For the past 12 years, I am in a relationship with a Lao guy. Met him in a restaurant in Sukhumvit Soi 22 where he was working at the time. The first two years we would meet in BKK during my holidays (twice a year). After this, it got more serious, and during a period of about three years, he visited my country 6 times on a Schengen visa.
After this going back and forth adventure, he permanently stayed with me, and after 6.5 years in my country he obtained permanent residency.
Now, I would describe our relationship as pretty good. We genuinely love each other and fights and problems are few and far between.
Five years ago I met my boyfriend’s best friend, he is also Lao and comes from a village not far from my boyfriend’s village (about 5 km apart). That first encounter didn’t leave any impression, as I simply forgot about him.
About a year later when I came back to the village after a short city trip alone, he was there and greeted me. As said, I didn’t remember him, but he sure seemed to remember me, including my name. Anyway, that night he stayed with us at my boyfriend’s parents house.
This time around, he did make an impression on me. In fact, I kind of liked the guy, he does look good, but more importantly, he is fun to be around.
Now after this second encounter, I met him several times in Bangkok. In fact, he slept with us several times (just sleep, as friends).
Until last November. It was one of the last days of my most recent holiday there. We were in the Telephone bar until closing time, and onwards to our usual karaoke at Pridi. He would join us there with a colleague, which he did at about 4am, at which time my boyfriend and I already consumed a full bottle of Thai Whiskey. It was agreed beforehand that he would sleep with us, so off we went to our place, after purchasing another bottle of Thai whiskey.
So after we almost finished the second bottle (we ran out of coke and soda) we would go sleep. That was around 6 am. Sleep I didn’t do for some time. I just want to point out that at the time I was completely drunk, so my recollection of whatever happened is fuzzy. I do know that I was lying next to the guy and had his dick in my mouth. I do know that with two other persons present (including my boyfriend) we decided to go the bathroom to conclude whatever the hell it was we were doing.
According to my boyfriend we were messing about for a full three hours, now I doubt that to be the case, but I don’t honestly can tell. From the other guy I do now know what we actually did.
Now for me this was a big OEPS moment. And I would probably have ignored it entirely was it not for the fact that when I woke up, I was holding the guy in the most direct way you can possibly hold someone. This told me two things, 1) apparently I like the guy and 2) he apparently like me, otherwise he wouldn’t let me hold him like that.
Anyway, the next day we went back home. My boyfriend initially said “no problem”. But after we got home, it was apparent that he was angry. Further complicating things, the other guy contacted me on Facebook. Initially just a chat every 4 or 5 days. Until about 5-6 weeks, at which our chat session would be daily and several times a day.
He keeps telling me how he is bad for this best friend, but in the same breath states the intention to have sex with me again, because he wants to. Now I am no saint, so I concurred.
Of course my boyfriend isn’t stupid, and some of the chats caught his attention (video chats tend to make some noise here or there ).
So my next trip to BKK is in 11 days, and it is clear the other guy wants sex, it is also clear my boyfriend doesn’t want that to happen.
It’s kind of funny how they were at odds at each other just one week ago, leading to the other guy flat out crying, yet he still wants to have sex with me.
As far as I’m concerned, chatting with this guy for 10 weeks, several times a day, has certainly introduced a few feelings for him. And I have every intention to make due on his requests for sex. Even though I know I would be a very bad boy for my boyfriend. But I am a human being as well, and I certainly developed feelings for the other guy.
Oh boy, the next holiday is going to be interesting for sure
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Originally Posted by ggobob
