Oh, I very much prefer your ribald variation of The Happy Gay Sex Tourist song fountainhall.Originally Posted by fountainhall
And since a447 was the inspiration for our own song, I hope he will forgive me if I say that, based on his trip reports, the ribald variation suits him down to a T.
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Speaking about husbands, a friend who is familiar with Filipino culture advises me that the term husband and wife are code words for top and bottom. :-o
Can anyone confirm?
I'm not interested in talking in riddles.
"Can I fuck you" always works for me! Lol
They can trick you into a relationship before you even know it. I have a friend whos life was ruined because he fall in love with a Filipino and in the end lost a big sum of money, after buying a house etc . The relatives was just using him . I guess same same as in Thailand , except it is easier to communicate in English .
I read this thread only now and don't know of the jellybean is still in contact with the Filipino boy.
Why don't you invite the boy to come to see you, and offer to pay for his flights? In that case you don't have to leave the comfort of Bangkok and get into somewhere unknown, the downside is that you have to plan activities for the time (when you visit him, he would have to plan activities), and if anything goes wrong you will be stuck with him (or move him out and pay for hotel).
If the boy can't come because he has a job, you would have to fill your days in the Philippines. I suggest a back-up plan anyway, so even if the boy does not show up or you separate after the first day, the trip is not lost. I am speaking of various experiences with Thai boys I went to visit in the provinces.
Loke - on reading your comments above whilst standing standing above me peering over my shoulder to see if I was surfing porn on my screen or not :-) my Flipino BF said I should maybe suggest to you to add the word "some" rather than "they" to your thoughts as to how "they can trick you" etc - just like maybe its "some"ThaI" guys or even "some" Farang" and just "some" of people from all around the world for that matter, as of course you find good and bad people everywhere.
Also I would add that the farang's (Im assuming here) life was ruined only because he allowed it to become so perhaps. Short of the Flipino family robbing him at gun point I assume he always was able to make his own choices and decisions in life and when he willing chose to buy a house that was his choice.
Of course if he then became victim to the same treatment that some farang in Thailand have experienced i.e once the house was bought he became surplus to requirements and was told to leave that would have been very hard for him I'm sure, however again his initial choices and decisions to buy the house were his and his alone and if he had chosen NOT to then his life might not have been just as ruined as he feels it was. So whilst he may well have been set up, which is of course rotten for him, to try and then blame others then for his own poor financial or emotional choices is stretching things a little I think personally as one must surely always take responsibility for ones own life choices and when dealing with people from a different Country or culture then caution I would imagine should always be your guide.
I have to agree with N'Irish, no one forced the foreigner to support the boy and his family, buy a house, etc. Those were the foreigner's choices. Why did he make those choices? Because he was playing under a foreigner's set of rules governing relationships, and those rules would encourage him to expect that in return for his money and commitment he would be rewarded with the love and loyalty of the boy and family. Unfortunately, in that case, the family was being guided by their own rule book which allows poverty stricken SE Asians to use a foreigner to whatever extent they feel is necessary to provide support and then terminate the relationship. For them, there is simply no rule that requires the pinoy to observe the foreigner's preconceived notions of relationship and fidelity. It's a gamble, both in the Philippines and in Thailand. You "pays your money and takes your chances".They can trick you into a relationship before you even know it. I have a friend whose life was ruined because he fall in love with a Filipino and in the end lost a big sum of money, after buying a house etc . The relatives was just using him . I guess same same as in Thailand , except it is easier to communicate in English .
I have met a few Filipino boys in Bangkok, two came to my room. Very good English, apart from that can't say anything good or bad about them.
That would be a red flag. The boy has completely different ideas of your (plural) future than you have.
Beside the circumcision issue (in a brave moment I will have a search on the web what exactly is going on) there might be religious fuck-ups (an Indonesian online acquaintance wrote he prays to God every day that we can meet some day - cringe!), I can't see myself dating Filipinos unless he approaches me and is extremely hot.
Yes ChristianPFC, тАЬthe jellybeanтАЭ is still in contact with the Filipino boy, although not to the same extent as before, maybe three times a day instead of five times a day.
During my recent 4-day trip to Pattaya, I was able to clarify a number of outstanding issues and resolved a basic misunderstanding with my boy from Khon Kaen. So, on my return to Bangkok, I had the unenviable task of breaking it to the Filipino boy that, regrettably, as I donтАЩt have the means to substantially improve his life in the Philippines, I shall not now be able to visit him. He was, of course, disappointed, as indeed am I. However, I think it is the correct decision. In retrospect, I should have stuck to my self-imposed rule of not responding to boys from the Philippines for the reasons mentioned in an earlier post.
Christian, you asked why he didnтАЩt consider visiting me, instead of me going to visit him. The reason I wanted to visit him is that the Philippines would have been the first Asian country outside of Thailand I would have visited. And, having sat on the fence for many years finding reasons not to visit other Asian countries, I convinced myself that this trip was entirely doable, having checked out the flight and hotel costs. Had things not gone well, then the boy would have been given a generous golden-goodbye and returned to his village, leaving me free to explore the local area. Although, I did not envisage that happening, believing we would have had a very enjoyable time together over the 7 day trip.
And the Filipino boy does not possess a passport and said he has never flown before and is scared of flying. I believe, as a first-timer, it would have been too much to ask him to undertake the complicated process of negotiating airport procedure on his own. He probably doesnтАЩt even own a suitcase. He did however indicate his desire to visit Thailand, but we thought it better that I visit him a couple of times first and, at some future date, he accompany me back to Thailand. That way I could have shown him what was involved. However, as mentioned above, that will not now happen.
As I have made it clear I donтАЩt have the means to support him as he would wish, the Filipino boy will continue to look for the westerner who is capable of providing financial assistance to him and his family. In the meantime, we shall remain Internet friends, although I fear that is likely to wither on the vine very quickly.
So yet again, on the verge of attempting to visit another Asian country, my efforts have been thwarted.
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I have enjoyed reading or re-reading the posts here about the Philippines.
After visiting there for over 12 years, and also many trips to Thailand, Cambodia, Laos, and Mayalsia, I must say I feel most at Home in the Philippines!!
I am an American. 75 yo now. Retired. Have a long time Partner here. Who hates flying and will not travel to Asia.
So I go anyway.
I was last in the Philippines in September and will be there again the first week of April. Three weeks. Really looking forward to my time there!!
I do have many close friends and, yes, I have been the sweet Dad or Tito (Uncle) that helped several guys through college and get a start in life. I could have done that in Thailand but the language was just too much of an impediment. At least in the PH I can ask and listen and share.
SO, I agree Pinoy Guys can be very needy. But they are also great lovers, cut cocks and all!!!
Here are my suggestions:
1. Go to Cebu, Cagayan de Oro or Davao. Much better than Manila.
2. Do not worry about being kidnapped. All are very safe.
3. Forget the Gay or Go-Go Bars. Just meet handsome men on PlanetRomeo, Skype or WhatsUp.
4. Go to some of the beautiful places and take a hot guy with you!! You will enjoy the beaches and relaxed days!!! And he will make you HAPPY HAPPY.
5. Be clear about what you can or want to do. Yes many guys need a "favor". So set your limits and do not slip into that "Savior" mentality.
6. Finally, ENJOY!!!
Just a few other comments.
It is not reasonable to expect a Pinoy guy to just fly to Bangkok, even if he has a Passport. I tried one year to have a long time friend, graduating in HRM, come meet me in Bangkok. He flew to Manila and was denied boarding!!! I even spoke to the Immigration Agent from Bankgok to no avail. You need to meet you guy in the Philippines and accompany them through Departure. On our second try I still had a difficult time with Immigration. But we did make it to Hong Kong and Disneyland. By the way he is now on his second 10 month Contract on a P&O Cruise Ship!!! One of my success stories...
This trip I plan to see some old friends and meet some new ones!! And take my 21 yo guy with me to Palawan. Life at 75 is still great!!
GWM in USA
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