Pls Share Experiences on Recent Trips to Laos or Cambodia

I have read past occasional reviews and on line guides on these countries and visited them myself. I found them to be much more challenging to connect with anyone for even something as simple as an erotic massage. I would appreciate any suggestions to better connect with the young men in these countries and hear of others experiences in trying to find sexual pleasure. Maybe I take the availability of activity in Thailand for granted!

I am not looking for tourist ideas, I know the places for that. Are these countries just so culturally different that the experiences of Thailand just don't happen? What other countries, if any, have perspectives similar to Thailand? Bali?