What if it was Robert Downey Jr.? They could become Iron Man's father-in-law. Can't say that wouldn't be cool.
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Hey, whatever rocks his world!
With a 55 year age gap, the farang has to spend his money on something...and it sure as hell isn't gonna be on any green banana's at the market.
On a serious note, I know several retired expats who are in their 80's who literally wouldn't be able to cope living alone. Their live-in partner in this context is providing a "care service" for pay regardless of how you want to frame it. The alternative, would be to reside in a senior care facility, which some do.
As the owner of another gay board says, " If you want love, rent it "
He means sex. There is a difference.
...no matter how you present it, its something that only the poor will entertain...middle/upper class gay Thais will find someone of similar age/status to live with...preferably also Thai...there are exceptions ...daddy chasers are a thing...but no Thai wants to be seen as a money boy ...even when im riding it doggy style...engorged member deeply embedded...slapping the rump...it will still proclaim...me no mb...me student...want money for bus go home...
So guys...sorry to shatter the illusion...
The gay message boards have been going for twenty-plus years now and what was the big debate back in the early days? - is it possible for a bar boy to fall in love with an older farang or only be interested in the money? Romantics versus realists. Endlessly obsessed over, endlessly unresolved. (One famously long-running thread was called The Wallet, I seem to recall). The issue doesn't crop up anywhere near as often nowadays (been done to death) but still, as in this thread, makes the occasional guest appearance for old times' sake.
My own two penn'orth based on long experience: yes, bar boys do sometimes fall for older farangs but usually when the farang is at the younger end of the scale (say 40s rather than 70s) and has a presentable appearance and attractive personality. Much more frequent, I think, is for a boy to grow genuinely fond of a farang who is kind and caring and willing to help the boy financially in moderation (a farang throwing money around is more likely to earn secret contempt than respect). In this context the relationship is perhaps more likely to work well if the farang is on the older side and perceived by the boy to be more reliable, even when he knows that the farang might see other boys too. Such relationships can be very satisfying for both parties.
The relationships most likely to fail are ones where the expectations are way too high on both sides (been there, done that). Compromise, especially on the farang's part, seems inescapable to me if an older farang wants to have that absurd thing, a close relationship with a sexy, handsome, much younger guy. Most relationships will end eventually, of course, whatever effort goes into them. That's just life, gay or straight, bar scene or otherwise. Still seems worth the effort to me. I can see the logic of those who consider any kind of emotional commitment with bar boys to be asking for trouble. I've certainly had my share of such troubles. As long as I'm still solvent after my various escapades I continue unbowed!
I take Prince Charles’ answer when asked if he and Loopy Diana were “in love” as my guide. He replied “Whatever that is”.
I totally agree with every point you made in your post above, and particularly like what you said in the quote above.
It blows my mind every time the subject of "love me - love me not" comes up, as if there's a "one-shoe-fits-all" answer.
Christ...half the working boys in Thailand are str8-for-pay (pony ride rentals), where relationships between them and farang punters are obviously based purely on $$$money$$$. The other half are gay or bi boys, who, if they had their way, would be coupled with personable - good-looking - young farang studs - not someone old enough to be their father, grandfather, great grandfather, and in some cases, great-great grandfathers, regardless if the relationship was based on sex-for-pay or not.
To Latintopxxx point, no working boy (or girl) wants to walk around with a label of "Prostitute" stapled to their foreheads. Most would want to be able to have their cake and eat it too. Meaning, be hooked up with a hot young farang who's financially stable and knows how to take care of them. That's the icing on the cake. Unfortunately, that only happens in "fairy tales" (meant literally).
Maybe they don't want to be seen that way but in all of Pattaya and in the gay area of Bangkok (Silom) many just don't care. Afterall, every man and his dog (figuratively speaking) has a young guy or girl in tow.
But I don't think they'd be too happy wandering our of the gay ghettos with their ageing farang.
From talking to the guys over the years, they don't give too much thought to what they are doing; they just treat it as a job. My friend in Pattaya has a brother working in the gay bars and a sister working in a bar in Walking Street. He didn't display any signs of embarrassment when he introduced me to his brother, nor when he told me matter-of-factly about his sister.
Nor did he bat an eyelid when I chuck-wowed his brother in front of him in the bar.
"Tham gan. Tham gan". That's what they say.
Don't you just love the attitude!
BTW, when I was talking about the relaxed and uninhibited Asian take on sex, I forgot to mention the number of times sex came up as a topic around the family dinner table in Japan.
On one occasion I was spending the weekend at a friends family house in the country. We were discussing the next day's early start and I said we must remember to set the alarm clock, otherwise I won't be able to get out of bed.
"Don't worry," said his young sister."His morning wank will wake you up. He's been my alarm clock for years!"
The whole family, including grandma, just collapsed with laughter.
And I went to bed that night dreaming about tomorrow's wake up alarm! Lol