Re: Who here is truly monogamous?
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Originally Posted by cdnmatt
I'm curious, how many here in a relationship are truly monogamous? My apologies if I'm wrong, but it seems many gay individuals can't and/or don't want to keep their dicks to one partner. Many seem to want a partner, but only as long as they can have friends with benefits on the side. I've never quite understood that, as in my mind, it diminishes the entire relationship, and the entire reason of being together.
So anyway, I'm curious, who here is truly monogamous?
I am, in fact I am very no-gamous. :bot:
Re: The morally illiterate
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Originally Posted by thonglor55
They are simply (cyber-)bullies and every time they resort to such tactics we should point out that fact.
I couldn't agree more.
Re: Who here is truly monogamous?
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Originally Posted by cdnmatt
I'm curious, how many here in a relationship are truly monogamous? My apologies if I'm wrong, but it seems many gay individuals can't and/or don't want to keep their dicks to one partner. Many seem to want a partner, but only as long as they can have friends with benefits on the side. I've never quite understood that, as in my mind, it diminishes the entire relationship, and the entire reason of being together.
So anyway, I'm curious, who here is truly monogamous?
I had three that were monogamous, one open, and now I am looking, However, at my age why limit myself/
Re: Who here is truly monogamous?
RichLB wrote:
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From what I can tell, those who insist on monogamy are placing the price of their relationship on their partner being deprived of the pleasures of sexual adventuring. If you truly loved your partner wouldn't you want them to find as much pleasure in life as possible?
I completely disagree with this. You're building your attempt at logic on a faulty premise.
Why do you feel that "pleasure" is the ultimate measure of quality of life?
If a desire for your partner to have pleasure is the only thing motivating you in a relationship
and the only thing that determines your behavior towards and influence of your partner, then
why not encourage them to use heroin, or sit on the couch and eat KFC all day, or sleep 18
hours a day. I'm not advocating "morality" based on someone else's terms, or claiming that
monogomy is the higher ground because it's "right." But depriving yourself of overindulgence
of any pleasure is most often the more responsible choice.
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If you truly loved your partner wouldn't you want them to find as much pleasure in life as possible?
That's just ludicrous. Pleasure at the expense of what? Pleasure for its own sake is gluttony.
Re: Who here is truly monogamous?
As a long term monogamous-er, I say: cheers to (joyful) us/them, and just as many cheers to the (joyful) and non-apologist butterflies ... where would the delicious Boys of Thailand be without them?
And where would the oh-so-serious farang-on-farang tete-a-tetes ("... what a glorious ass he had! You licked it? He let you?? Smooth balls? Tell me about it/them! He actually kissed me, tonguefully!! ... ") under the umbrellas at Jomtien be? On the Egyptian Revolution?
RichLB's pop psychology take on fucking-around may make him feel all goody and squishy and warm about the 'naturalness' of it ... but I'm not quite sure why he feels the need for such a Freudian Snoopy blanket on the issue in the first place.
Re: Who here is truly monogamous?
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Originally Posted by Thor69
Matt's relationship suits him and whether you approve or not isn't any of your business. Those that are saying negative things about his relationship are probably promiscuous queens than can't maintain anything longer that a week or two. They bring their negativity and paranoia into the situation and eventually destroy it. Too bad for them!
Well put, Thor69!... Totally agree.
Re: Who here is truly monogamous?
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Originally Posted by thonglor55
My point is that you are confusing morality with commerce and cannot see how morally confused you are by chasing the pornography dollar while espousing monogamy.
No it's not. This thread didn't start on about morality or his commercial activities at all. It's debating the benefits and downsides of monogamy to a relationship and the individuals involved.
You're a f*ckstick trying to spin it into something about the moralities of the porn business so you can find little anal flaws and attack him as you always do. The moment he mentioned his business services the porn industry you jumped on it and used it to make jabs at him.
Matt sounds like a pretty decent/intelligent, hard working guy who's good company and looks after people around him. You're a f*ckstick just trying to tear him apart. You have no purpose other than to vent your bitterness and push out whatever crap you carry against "callow youth" and people who may be practical and not so strictly academic/intellectual.
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Originally Posted by cdnmatt
why am I even wasting the time to debate this with you [thonglor55/homintern]? Go stick your head in your ass, where it belongs.
Exactly... the guy's a f*ckstick, Matt. Not worth your time.
Remember the last time you came across a sleazy, poorly dressed, unappealing creep of a farang going about Thailand? That's him. He's just not worth bothering with.
Re: Who here is truly monogamous?
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Originally Posted by Beachlover
You're a f*ckstick... a sleazy, poorly dressed, unappealing creep of a farang going about Thailand? That's him.
тАЬIf you can't answer a man's arguments, all is not lost; you can still call him vile names.тАЭ
Elbert Hubbard
Re: Who here is truly monogamous?
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Originally Posted by cdnmatt
I'm curious, how many here in a relationship are truly monogamous? My apologies if I'm wrong, but it seems many gay individuals can't and/or don't want to keep their dicks to one partner. Many seem to want a partner, but only as long as they can have friends with benefits on the side. I've never quite understood that, as in my mind, it diminishes the entire relationship, and the entire reason of being together.
So anyway, I'm curious, who here is truly monogamous?
Monogamous relationships are somewhat foreign to the thinking of the older set that inhabits this message board. They grew up very closeted and had to seek sexual partners in bathrooms, parks, beaches, etc. If they did go to a gay bar it was to get drunk, find someone to have sex with and forget about the whole thing by morning. Some of the luckier ones established relationships, but they too were flawed with gilt, self loathing and paranoia.
Matt, you are truly one of the lucky ones, growing up in what I would call the best of times for gay relationships.
Young people today can access their smart phone and find a hook up with one of the many apps such as Grindr. They have Adam4Adam, GayRomeo and a host of other websites to find someone in just a few minutes or for later that evening. This saves precious time in a bar, drinking too much and sometimes not getting the nerve to make contact with that hottie across the bar. They younger people of today can get the hooking up out of their system earlier in life and be able to move on to things like dating and eventual relationships. The older generation never had those options. That's why you see them all over places like Pattaya drooling over young boys in skimpy briefs. They are use to that lifestyle and don't know how to cope with a nice young man living with them on a daily basis.
Consider your relationship a gift and when or if it ends you'll be a better person that has learned valuable life lessons. From this you'll be ready to move on to your next boyfriend or partner.
Most of the posters have no idea what you and your boyfriend have as they view their sexual partners as objects and not the human being that are.
What a pity life has dealt them that hand in life.