Originally Posted by
cdnmatt
You're not looking for a "mia noi", which literally translates to "little wife". Yes, those exist here, and many people have one, especially wealthy white collar folks. However, they're still 100% devoted to their wife & family. Maybe couple times a week they'll go see their "mia noi", whether it's a hotel, or they rent her an apartment, or even buy her a house. This is all done very discreetly with neat excuses like, "I had a business meeting" or "I'm going golfing with my friends", etc.
From what you've posted though, you seem to be looking for a replacement, not a "mia noi". This is fine too. Hey, shit happens, sometimes relationships don't work out, and you need to move on. Nothing wrong with that.
Problem is you're planning to keep your current BF of 12 years on the line, while you chase this other guy. That's what's called being an asshole.
Whether or not you want to believe me is up to you, but I'm telling you, due to the culture here, if you make your current BF feel abandoned, he's not going to take it lightly. More than likely, he'll take it far worse than someone in the West would. And if he doesn't, then he never really loved you in the first place, so hey, doesn't matter I guess.