Re: What rules do you implement for a Thai BF?
I have no rules that apply to my live-in partners...only rules that apply to me.
FROM LESSONS LEARNED:
Rule # 1. Never expose my emotional vulnerabilities to him. If he says "I love you" just shrug it off and keep playing my guitar.
Rule # 2. Don't expect him to be neat-as-a-pin. He was probably raised by a drunk father and a mother who plucked chickens next to the food bowls.
Rule # 3: Don't get angry when he watches cartoons all day...at least he's naked.
Rule # 4. Never commit any devotion to him beyond the day I'm living. When he tries to pry this from me...just tell him he's thinking too much.
Rule # 5. Always look behind the SMILES and remind myself that the only reality is the SEX.
Rule # 6. Be grateful to him for all he's giving, but don't expect more from him than he's capable of giving.
Re: What rules do you implement for a Thai BF?
If youre a 60 year old living with a 20ish year old boy I think you don't need rules, all you need is enough money and the boy will follow you anywhere , until your last breath.
And remember we are all farangs here in Thailand. Even locals that lived here for 30 years, I don't mind .
Re: What rules do you implement for a Thai BF?
loke wrote:
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If youre a 60 year old living with a 20ish year old boy I think you don't need rules, all you need is enough money and the boy will follow you anywhere , until your last breath.
And remember we are all farangs here in Thailand. Even locals that lived here for 30 years, I don't mind
I agree with what you're saying...with one twist...It doesn't matter to a Thai boy if you're 25 or 85 years old. Regardless of your age, your role in the relationship is that of "Sponsor" simply because you are "Farang".
I know 2 boys who worked at bars in Sunee Plaza who entered into full-time/live-in relationships with 2 young farang. Boy #1 shacked up with a 25 y/o blond-haired Swedish boy and became the envy of his friends who hung around the old Corner Bar. He disappeared for two years, then reappeared on the scene after breaking up with the farang. When I asked him what happened he went on to tell me that the farang stopped giving him money and expected him to work. Boy #2 had a similar story. He left his job at Yaya Bar to elope to Russia with a 27 year old Russian farang - only to return 1 year later with his head hanging down. He told me that the farang gave him spending money...no problem there...but refused to give him the extra money he needed at the end of each month to send to his mother back in Isaan, thus the reason why they broke up.
Rule # 7. No Money - No Honey.
Re: What rules do you implement for a Thai BF?
I don't know, but I don't think telling them to get a job if they want more money is necessarily a bad thing. Obviously, this is assuming the farang is a decent person, provides a good life, pays all the bills including food, provides enough of an allowance that allows for at least a somewhat decent life on their own, including help their family a LITTLE, etc. Aside from that, do what every other human on the planet does -- live within your means, or make more money. I don't see a problem with that.
Re: What rules do you implement for a Thai BF?
Matt stop grieving and move on, what the fuck are you asking people on the board for? Grab your balls and just do something because your beginning to sound a bit pathetic. :((
The many stories of woe here bring back memories of this old TV show.
http://youtu.be/0YW-uv3Ibm8
Re: What rules do you implement for a Thai BF?
I have to been giving my BF 1500 per day while I've been here (approx 2 months).
He gets fed and watered although he does get small things for me.
So am I paying too much?
As an aside after these two months how much has he left....answer nothing.
You couldn't dream it up!
Re: What rules do you implement for a Thai BF?
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Originally Posted by Manforallseasons
Matt stop grieving and move on, what the fuck are you asking people on the board for? Grab your balls and just do something because your beginning to sound a bit pathetic. :((
I wasn't really grieving, but just trying to provide information for any newcomers floating around. You are right though, and edited.
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Originally Posted by egel
I have to been giving my BF 1500 per day while I've been here (approx 2 months).
He gets fed and watered although he does get small things for me.
So am I paying too much?
As an aside after these two months how much has he left....answer nothing.
You couldn't dream it up!
No dream here just total reality the only dream is the one in your head, and yes you want to believe it!
Re: What rules do you implement for a Thai BF?
cdnmatt wrote:
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I don't know, but I don't think telling them to get a job if they want more money is necessarily a bad thing.
I don't think its necessarily a bad thing either, especially if you want to part ways with him..LOL.
If you're fortunate enough to meet a guy who is already working, and content with his work, then that's a different story, but the brand of "Sponsor" still applies...at least from all that I've witnessed and been personally exposed to. In the end, it's always the $$money$$ that serves as the bonding agent.
Rule # 8. Don't try to make him something he's not.
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I don't think its necessarily a bad thing either, especially if you want to part ways with him..LOL.
But then what do you do? Just flip open your wallet / bank account any time they need money or have a (made-up) problem? From my experience, they're much more skilled at getting money out of us, than we are at keeping it. :)
So there has to be some boundaries somewhere there, no?