My experience of living and travelling in Asia for most of my life has demonstrated to me that Asians, by and large, have a totally relaxed attitude to sex compared with their Western counterparts.
This may be based on the Buddhist philosophy that many Asian countries share - a philosophy which does not go out of its way to condemn sex or see it as something we should not engage in.
I remember seeing a hen's party at a karaoke club in Perth. The singing stopped, everyone sat down and out came a male stripper. The bride-to-be sat on a chair while the stripper thrust his crotch into her face and did his thing. The show ended with her removing his G-string and getting her photo taken holding his massive, but soft, member. I almost came in my pants.
When the bar got back to normal I leant over to the girls' table and asked them where the host clubs were.
"What do you mean?"
"You know; clubs where wonen go to fool around with male hosts. Like the guy who put on the show tonight."
They didn't have a clue what I was talking about. And they were shocked that such a club would even exist.
In Japan and Korea such host clubs are enormously popular among women of all ages and there is no stigma attached to enjoying the company of male hosts. After all, their husbands go to hostess clubs, so why not? The attitude is that's is only a bit of erotic fun so let's just enjoy it.
I've been to a few such clubs as a guest of female friends who knew my "interests" but it was all rather tame. It wasn't the female version of Eros or Niceboys, that's for sure. One night they had a "Roman orgy" night where the guys were dressed in togas and were naked underneath. I was desperate to go for the grope but somehow managed to control myself, despite being enthusiastically encouraged by the group. I think the guy may have been up for it but I wasn't sure. None of the women I was with touched the guy. When I asked why, they said they weren't particularly interested in cock but it was nice to know that it was there of they wanted it.
I think their differing attitude to sex and eroticism is based on their society's religious values.
I found another clue to the Asian rather uninhibited attitude towards sex, especially by young, on a visit to Bali. I was sitting on the beach practising my Indonesian with a bunch of young villagers who had come into town for the national holiday. They told me all about their village life and how hard it was. I asked them what they did for entertainment. They said traditional dancing and sex - and from a young age. That was it - no internet to speak of, no place to watch movies, no sporting facilities. Nothing. And who do they have sex with? Their peers, apparently. And they told me they all lost their virginity while they were high school students. Not only is it the best form of entertainment, it's also free. Where do they do it? Behind the temple walls, in the surrounding jungle, down by the river. And the guys seem to enjoy group sex, or at least have no problem performing in front of others.
Whatsmore, they told me it was common practice for their fathers to have affairs. Same same in other Asian cultures.
It's that free-wheeling spirit that brings me back to Asia time and time again.