Lol! Your so full of shit......
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mfas...why so bitter...
More importantly, how do couples with huge age gaps conjugate?
I think the average age gap between a farang and his much younger Thai counterpart is probably somewhere around 35 years which is enormous. This pertains to both str8 and gay couples.
Just from the naked-eye, the successful long-term relationships that I've seen involve couples who have similar interests...know the importance of setting realistic expectations...and respect each others boundaries.
A common set of values involving love, commitment, and companionship. come into play in successful relationships as well, and these have very little to do with age.
I don't know if it's still available ( I bought my copy in Royal Garden about seventeen years ago) but "Thailand Fever" is worth a read in this context. It's written by an American and concerns falang relationships with Thai women- specifically bar-girls. Helpfully, much of it is also translated into Thai so that our partners can read it too. Most but not all of it is relevant to gay relationships.
And one Thai word it taught me is "getanyu".
It was relevant because, in our early days, mutual incomprehension was sometimes an issue between P and me and that word, "getanyu" , sometimes cropped-up. It isn't easily translatable but it describes an important element in the sort of thing Dodger is discussing.
In short, it describes a love for someone who has supported, cared for and guided you. Most often, of course, a parent. It implies duty, responsibility and a lifetime commitment.
The romantic and physical elements are not there and are even harder to define but I found it a help when P and I were beginning to get to know each other when we had first passed beyond the favourite bar-boy/client stage.
I agree with Dodger that a 35 year age difference with a Thai boy is not out of the norm however, how can you have common interests with someone 35 years younger let alone from a completely different culture, BTW I consider long distance relationships not on the same level as living together.
partner and i are of the same age...we both contribute....no kept boys here in our relationship...need someone i can actually talk to and relate to...half the time teens/twenty somethings are on a nother planet ...i dont care for their music (rap is the devils invention) and i dont care for their thoughts...most are addled game plaing twits...they r only good for one thing...we both have a wide circle of fwb augmented by grindr "dates"..some of which we reward for their services.....the covid pandemic has decimated the hospitality sector...lots of these uni students would have been working as part time waiters....they need the cash...we have noticed an increase in the number & quality of grindr dates looking for "rewards"...fun times...have 2 spare bedrooms...one we keep for guests...the other houses the house boy...house boys get rotated out every year or so when we tire of them...cant recall last time i vacumed or emptiedn tghe dish washer....thats house boys duty...and btw...thats what he gets called...he's always available for sex...thats his main role..u woulkd be surprised at how many subs are out there craving a 24/7 role...the selection hands on interview process can be fun...like i said...life is good...
No wonder you are not having fun with that attitude!
Possible common interests:
Having a good time
Sex
Sense of Humour
Travel
Exploring
Good food(you won't both like all the same things, find the crossover points)
Live Music
Movies
Sport
Did I mention sex?
35 year gap would make my partner illegal in every country I know of...but even a 30 year gap would be trying...what do you have in common with a 16 or 18 year old...even more difficult if he's from another culture...cant even enjoy english humour...goes right over their heads...nah...i need a partner thats I can relate to on many level.s...sex is sport....have it by the bucket load.....love is something far more complex...requires a lot of work and commitment..