Okay, my first trip. Should I arrange a date in advance?
Hi All,
I am arriving in early December and spending about a week in BKK and then 10 days in Pattaya before taking off for 3 weeks in the Philippines.
This is my first trip to Thailand and I am wondering the pros and cons of my potential actions. I am not interested in forming a long distance LT relationship at this point although I am single now and I could. I have been speaking to a couple of guys in BKK and Pattaya from various web sites and chatting with them. Some of them sound very interesting. Well, let me rephrase that last sentence....they sound and look very cute and hot.... The question is do I arrange a date with a local guy in BKK and another maybe in Pattaya for the times of my trip I am in each place? I kind of like the idea of having a guide/date for the first trip. I am not exactly sure if they are money boys or not.....but, I'm sure it will cost me either way, lol. Anyway, the alternative is to check out the bar boy scene and be more of a butterfly but I am affraid I will just off some one for the same amount of time anyway and the only advantage/disadvantage is I will know for sure that he is a money boy. And, if I were to arrange a date or two how would I get out of the long date if it doesn't work out and save face for the guy as well? Also, I have been chatting with a guy from Malaysia and I am concidering flying him to BKK for 1 week. That has an advantage/disadvantage as it has a definate end in BKK and then I am free to go to Pattaya alone.
Ravage me with your thoughts, opinions and comments please.
I fully agree I should not get a date in advance however....
They are soooooooo f-ing cute damn.......I hope I can resist!!! Ugh!
Re: I fully agree I should not get a date in advance however
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Originally Posted by topjohn5
They are soooooooo f-ing cute damn.......I hope I can resist!!! Ugh!
Just keep it in your pants another few weeks, topjohn5. Do some searches in the archives -- the stories are the same month after month, year after year. For someone single arriving in Thailand and looking to hook up with a guy, it's not only foolish (in my opinion) to book yourself up this far in advance, it's unfair to you AND the friends you are more than likely going to meet.
By unfair I mean if you book yourself up before arriving you're going to upset someone if you send your arranged friend packing because you meet someone who you click with after arriving here, either him by dumping him or yourself by sticking to your agreement and passing up what might be quite a catch.
Of course, that's assuming you're going to come into this arrangement without expectations and with an open mind for a culture, mindset and menu of social customs that will be difficult to get a grip on in one trip. The Thai are by and large a warm, wonderful and gracious group of generous folks, but you'll have a much better chance of meeting them someplace where company and affection are not listed on a menu, if you catch my drift.
I've built some friendships that I expect will last a lifetime; people who pay their own way, don't ask for anything other than my time, people I feel I could count on if I needed them. I've also met some who were less than honest, but keeping one's wits about them can often sort that lot out. Sound new friends out online while you're chatting - ask what's important to them in life. If they can't hold any kind of conversation past what the new phones are like, move on.
The Thai friends who have complained to me about how badly they're treated by Western men have to a man been trolling in the trash for relationships. I would offer the same advice to you, free of charge. Look for the type of guy you want in a place where such guys might be, and if it's relationship material you're after the odds are against them loitering in the third floor men's room in some shopping mall.
If I were coming here on my first trip and was in the market for hook-ups, I'd arrive footloose and fancy free. The unknown in this case is part of the excitement - don't cheat yourself out of it by jumping the gun.
As the song goes: "The obsession's in the chasing, and not the apprehending. The pursuit, you see - and never the arrest."
Besides... it's the rare person who comes to Thailand that can resist coming back.
You'll see! :cheers:
Sigh ....consider yourself ravaged
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Originally Posted by topjohn5
Hi All,
I am arriving in early December and spending about a week in BKK and then 10 days in Pattaya before taking off for 3 weeks in the Philippines.
This is my first trip to Thailand and I am wondering the pros and cons of my potential actions. I am not interested in forming a long distance LT relationship at this point although I am single now and I could. I have been speaking to a couple of guys in BKK and Pattaya from various web sites and chatting with them. Some of them sound very interesting. Well, let me rephrase that last sentence....they sound and look very cute and hot.... The question is do I arrange a date with a local guy in BKK and another maybe in Pattaya for the times of my trip I am in each place? I kind of like the idea of having a guide/date for the first trip. I am not exactly sure if they are money boys or not.....but, I'm sure it will cost me either way, lol. Anyway, the alternative is to check out the bar boy scene and be more of a butterfly but I am affraid I will just off some one for the same amount of time anyway and the only advantage/disadvantage is I will know for sure that he is a money boy. And, if I were to arrange a date or two how would I get out of the long date if it doesn't work out and save face for the guy as well? Also, I have been chatting with a guy from Malaysia and I am concidering flying him to BKK for 1 week. That has an advantage/disadvantage as it has a definate end in BKK and then I am free to go to Pattaya alone.
Ravage me with your thoughts, opinions and comments please.
OK, here goes . . . to re-coin an old cliche: YOU TINK TOO MUCH!!! (And you don't make paragraphs within your posts, which makes them difficult to read, which makes them look like self-indulgent stream of consciousness, which just adds credence to my feeling that you tink too much.)
Quit tinking so much!
Cheers ...