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March 22nd, 2008, 15:42
I have been coming to Thailand for about 12 years. I always thought I would visit Cambodia to see Angkor Wat, but never did until a week ago. Now that I have retired in Thailand I want to explore the countries around here. For those of you that have never been to Cambodia other than a Visa run, I would encourage you to see Phnom Penh and Siem Reap. Since you can read about these places online or in tour books I want to post the differences that I saw between Thailand and the two cities I visited. I want to thank "Gone fishing" for the PM and recommendations.

My Thai friend and I flew on Air Asia to Phnom Penh. The flight was about an hour and was comfortable. After take off they gave us many forms to fill out for immigration and customs and a visa on arrival. The airport in Phnom Penh is very small compared to Bangkok. It is new and very efficient. It took almost a minute to de-plane and get to the immigration desk. Most stopped at the Visa on arrival desk but we had gone one line and secured our visa ahead of time. The e-visa is very easy to apply for online but those that stopped to get one on arrival were processed very quickly. The passport control desks were all manned. I think there were 11 stations. Our flight was the only flight being processed. Waited maybe 5 minutes for processing. Returning to Bangkok I waited 70 minutes and it took another 15 minutes to get to the car park in Bangkok.

As you exit the arrival hall in Phnom Penh you are greeted immediately by taxi drivers with signs with your name on them if you had prearranged a car pickup. Our driver met us. His car seemed well maintained for a 20 year old Toyota. It cost $7 dollars for the 20 minute ride to our hotel. The US dollar is the main currency. Those that think the driving in Pattaya is risky must experience Phnom Penh. In Pattaya most of the motorbikes stay close to the curb side but in Phnom Penh cars and motorbikes are not so orderly. Several times on a 4 lane road cars were coming head on towards us at fast speeds. Our driver simply moved over into on coming traffic pitting us against on coming traffic. Most cars are left hand drive cars as in the US. The cheap imports (my friend's words...meaning stolen from Thailand) are plentiful however.

The main tourist district that contains the King's Palace and National Museum is a very small area. It seemed to be only 3 or 4 blocks in each direction. Most of the hotels in this area are old French Colonial buildings. The area is a bit cluttered but there are upscale resorts nearby. We stayed at the FCC. This place has 7 rooms and is really nice for the price. It has a great restaurant on the roof over looking the river. Very full of expats and tourists. No air conditioning as in most places in this area except for the guest rooms. No tall buildings that we saw. Much different from Bangkok.

Most tourist travel from place to place by Tuk-Tuk. These are much more comfortable than those I have ridden in here in Thailand. They are more like chariots pulled by a motor bike. The motorbikes have a large plastic "gas tank" strapped to them and run fairly slowly. The bikes are small cc. We paid $1 to go from our hotel to the Blue Chili bar.....which is only 2 blocks away but we did not know. The driver was named Len. Spoke fairly good English and said he had a Dutch boyfriend. He is a nice guy and is always in front of FCC. We invited him to have a drink with us. The owner of the Blue Chili is from Pattaya. He is the former boyfriend of one of the frequent posters of this board. His current boyfriend is Cambodian.

The next day we met our "English speaking" driver who would drive us the 4 hours to Siem Reap. He did not speak a word of English. We had arranged this driver through Ben Wee who a poster had heard about from the internet. I called Ben Wee before we left Thailand and asked about his services. What he promised and what we got were not the same. Just like in Thailand. Ben Wee asked to talk to the driver and then told me the driver he arranged was a different driver and the one driving was a friend of that driver. We continued on. The roads between Phnom Penh and Siem Reap is 2 lanes but in very good condition. The driver blew his horn all the way to Siem Reap but no one on the road paid attention. The Motorbike drivers do not move to the curb side of the road. They stay in the middle of the lane. Usually in Thailand they move over. I noticed than NONE of the motorbikes had rear view mirrors as the bikes in Thailand do. Also many are only 50cc and up. The most common bike I saw was like a Honda Cub. I have not seen this model in Thailand. There also were not many trucks over 2 axles. The vehicles carrying Cambodia passengers were packed. Over full inside and others sitting on packages that were strapped to the roof. It seemed really dangerous.We did not hit any traffic lights until we reached Siem Reap.

We stayed at a GREAT hotel called Steung Siem Reap. ( I spelled the hotel wrong on my original post....sorry)The cost was $50 a night with a very good buffet breakfast included. The hotel room was large very well air conditioned and the hotel had a nice salt water pool. I can not imagine a better deal. The hotel is located right off "bar street" which has MANY very good restaurants. None are are conditioned that we found. Most meals were between $2 and $4 per person before drinks. Many places have "Happy Hours" where draft beer is $.75 for a good sized mug (less than 25 baht). One meal I had consisted of a whole boneless chicken breast topped with ham and cheese, it came with great mashed potatoes, fresh cooked vegetables and bread for $3.50 (110 baht). That was not a special. Normal price. I think the same meal here in Pattaya would have been 250 baht. Another meal of large Greek salad, large bowl of Pumpkin soup and a baguette with butter cost $2.00 (60 baht). At a popular Mexican Restaurant the price of a meal for both of us which included a shared plate of chicken nachos, chips with salsa, a burrito with Mexican rice and refried beans for each of us, 2 pitchers of margaritas was $13.00 (450 baht total) These meals were all eaten at tourist restaurants. Pattaya is much more expensive.

The men we met were all friendly. However no host or go-go bars. I asked this one guy who was very handsome if he liked men or women, Without hesitation he winked and said "both". At another place we went upstairs where they served dinner. We looked at the menu and decided to go eat somewhere else and the very attractive waiter said with the nicest of smiles, "Where are you going? Don't you like me?" I said "Yes you are very handsome, but we want a bigger menu." His smile became bigger as he said, "I don't think you'll find anyone bigger than me!"

Even though I found only 2 host bars (Blue Chili and Salt Lounge) in Phnom Penh and 1 in Siem Reap (Golden Banana, which is a VERY mixed hotel with a great staff and wonderful owner....who arranged a fantastic massage for me), the men of Cambodia are very friendly and many very stunning. Driving through the villages to Siem Reap I saw some of the best looking men. Fairly tall (compared to many Thais) and very well defined bodies. The skin looked almost golden.....

The last comparison I would make is that the English speaking level of those working in the tourist areas is outstanding. Many had graduated from University and knew English very well. Even the younger children that sell trinkets and books around the temples have impressive English language skills. One young girl (9 or 10 years old) who was trying to sell me 10 post cards for a dollar said "Look you can write on these and send them to your friends." I jokingly said, "I am sorry I have no friends" to which she replied, "I will be your friend and you can send one to me". All in perfect English! (Yes I did give her the $1 without taking the postcards....very smart girl)

Some people have complained about small children begging. I did not have anyone approach me begging. There are young children selling books and things to earn money. But none of them were rude or pushy or bothersome. Cambodia is a very poor country. But the people I met were great. It is certainly a country of great need. The temples in Siem Reap are fantastic

March 22nd, 2008, 16:31
Thanks for the report.

Did you try the Linga bar in Siem Reap? That's a good place to meet the locals....

March 22nd, 2008, 16:59
Thanks for a great and very informative post PM. http://i167.photobucket.com/albums/u152/GeorgeThai/biggthumpup.gif


George.

jinks
March 22nd, 2008, 17:48
I have started to archive "Nice Stories" on my server in the same manner that I saved the old Pattayagay board's stories.

The pattayagay ones are on my site and webblog.

The newer ones are only on my site. Use the www button to find then.

TrongpaiExpat
March 22nd, 2008, 19:40
Nice report, very nice.

I too noticed that some of the Cambodians seem to speak English much better than their Thai counterparts. They conjugate verbs and use the correct tense. I wonder why? I did ask when I was surprised by their skill and was told, school, and not it was not pronounced like most Thais say, sa-scool.

March 22nd, 2008, 19:58
I too noticed that some of the Cambodians seem to speak English much better than their Thai counterparts. They conjugate verbs and use the correct tense. I wonder why? I did ask when I was surprised by their skill and was told, school, and not it was not pronounced like most Thais say, sa-scool.Colonised by the French and forced to learn a language structured that way has had long-term spillover effects into the Cambodian education system

Dick
March 22nd, 2008, 20:46
A very useful and worthwhile post, PM. Thank You.
Looking forward to the next chapter.

pronto
March 22nd, 2008, 21:20
Thank you for an excellent report, PM. Stories and posts like these continue to be what I find so helpful about this board. Thanks for sharing.

And Jinks....

The newer ones are only on my site. Use the www button to find then.
Thank you so much for this archiving! Frankly, I had never before noticed the "www button" --- (fairly unobservant of me!). From time to time I see posts, such as PM's, that I'd like to stash away for future reference and I have a tiresome manner of 'copying and saving'. Now seeing your archiving, that's a must better resource for me. Thanks!

March 22nd, 2008, 22:11
The reason most Thais speak English poorly and Cambodians speak English much better is deeply embedded within Thai culture. It is not culturally accepted to criticize, even when the criticism is constructive, therefore Thai English teachers have never had their English skills critically evaluated or corrected. I remember trying to talk to one of the BF's aunts who is an English teacher in Chiang Rai, and I could not even carry on a simple,"Hello, how are you today?" conversation with her. I watched as she tutored some of her regular day time English students in a small after school English class at her home.....and nearly pulled my hair out.....I still have no idea what was being said or read in English. My father -in-law, who is American, tried to hire an English teacher for the kids at home...and finally gave up because not even one of the applicants could speak to him on any level in English. He decided to teach English on his own and the kids are doing great, and speaking real English. He had absolutely no training as a teacher and only the few English educational materials I brought to him from America.

This Thai cultural issue with saving face and not criticizing even when it is beneficial will continue to hold Thailand back.

March 22nd, 2008, 22:42
This Thai cultural issue with saving face and not criticizing even when it is beneficial will continue to hold Thailand back.You think it's purely a Thai issue? A friend of mine (ethnic Chinese, born and raised in Canada) makes an interesting comparison between the Singaporean Chinese and the Malaysian Chinese, with both of whom she has worked as a consultant for one of the Fat Four accounting firms). She says the Singaporeans are much, much more conformist and interested in saving face than the Malaysians and believes it has to do with majority/minority ethnic status. Isn't "face" after all an Asian value, not just a Thai one? http://www.beyondintractability.org/essay/face/

March 23rd, 2008, 01:43
... but for cultural differences ...

globalwanderer
March 23rd, 2008, 01:48
This Thai cultural issue with saving face and not criticizing even when it is beneficial will continue to hold Thailand back.You think it's purely a Thai issue? A friend of mine (ethnic Chinese, born and raised in Canada) makes an interesting comparison between the Singaporean Chinese and the Malaysian Chinese, with both of whom she has worked as a consultant for one of the Fat Four accounting firms). She says the Singaporeans are much, much more conformist and interested in saving face than the Malaysians and believes it has to do with majority/minority ethnic status. Isn't "face" after all an Asian value, not just a Thai one? http://www.beyondintractability.org/essay/face/

you are right... 'face' however it may be referred to is Asian not Thai... I learnt that over many years in international business

piston10
March 23rd, 2008, 06:03
A relationship I cherished and a balance to the no doubt true generalisations about losing face among Thai teachers of English.

Two years ago I spent 3 months in Bangkok taking daily individual lessons in Thai at a language school. My teacher was a charming lady in her late 30s, whose English vocabulary and grammar were good, but whose pronunciation was very poor. We could not hide the fact and save her face, because, as a beginner, I needed to be told the English word quite frequently, and usually I had no idea what she was saying. She apologised again and again for her pronunciation, explaining that although she knew English speakers in Bangkok she had never had enough money to visit an English-speaking country. After a couple of weeks, when we got to know each other better, I started to help her - that is, for example, I explained some matters of sound production, use of mouth muscles, etc. I was amazed that nobody had ever told an English student that 'v's and 'w's involve a quite different use of the lips. We soon got rid of 'wowels'! In fact, lessons became much more mutual and I very much enjoyed the fact that, for a quarter of an hour of the two-hour lesson, I was able to reciprocate the scrupulous work she was doing with me.

By the third month I was really putting her to the test - with proper school-masterly threats. I threatened not to leave Thailand until I could hear all the consonants in 'wasps' and 'wisps', and eventually 'vastnesses' - and she made the grade! I think it was a tribute to her strength of character and unusual individuality that, far from defending herself with the loss of face reaction, she could hardly wait to learn something new.

When I left Bangkok, not only was there 'an apple for the teacher', but a Thai music disk for the pupil - presented with floods of tears. I suspect the one thing I had forgotten to improve was the dear lady's gaydar!

March 23rd, 2008, 07:55
what a sweat and interestingf story. It make me believe that interracial "relationship" is possible ;-)

adman5000
March 23rd, 2008, 08:18
Piston10,

use of mouth muscles
use of the lips
lessons became much more mutual
I was able to reciprocate
By the third month I was really putting her to the test - with proper school-masterly threats.
she made the grade
she could hardly wait to learn something new

It sounds like either this was the result of a creative writing exercise or your mind was confusing events!

catawampuscat
March 23rd, 2008, 10:20
A few years ago, I went to the language school of a boy I was involved with to see his teacher and school.
I couldn't understand the English teacher as his command of English was terrible and it appears to me that
the lessons were conducted in Thai with English writing on the blackboard.

Frankly, the lessons were quite cheap but useless for pronounciation and comprehension. Probably adequate for
studying irregular verbs and such. This was a tiny school behind a travel agency on Soi PostOffice as I recall. :cat:

Nirvana
March 23rd, 2008, 12:45
Pattaya Male .. Can't say I did'nt warn you (anyone ) in a previous post about
the taxi journey from Phnom Penh to Siem Riep ...........

March 23rd, 2008, 17:00
Colonised by the French and forced to learn a language structured that way has had long-term spillover effects into the Cambodian education system

Might also be because Khmer is not a tonal language, is not related to Thai and has consonant clusters that make English words easier to pronounce for Cambodians.

March 23rd, 2008, 17:14
Pattaya Male .. Can't say I did'nt warn you (anyone ) in a previous post about
the taxi journey from Phnom Penh to Siem Riep ...........

The trip was even more frightening than you described. My Thai friend said he prayed to Buddha the entire drive. He said I can no longer complain about his driving.

I will listen better to your advice next time!

March 23rd, 2008, 17:33
A cheaper & potentially slightly safer route to Siem Reap is to take the train from BKK to Aranya Prathet (48 bht, 6 hours), followed by a Tuk Tuk to the border (80 bht), then share a taxi with some other tourist to Siem Reap (say 50% of $40).

At the moment, the road is un-made most of the way, so this keeps speeds down, which must be a good thing.

March 24th, 2008, 01:36
English Language Skills

French colonisation and the structure of the French language may have been relevant three or four decades ago, but following first the Khmer Rouge and then the Vietnamese, French influence and the French language have virtually disappeared (apart from in the restaurants and bakeries!), despite the best efforts of the French (Alliance Francaise, etc) to encourage use of the French language.

The idea of face saving is very much an Asian concept, not a Thai one, and one which I found to be just as relevant to Cambodians as it is to Thais.

The biggest reason for the difference is simply the efforts made by the UN (and their money!) and a number of international NGOs following UNTAC and the return of "democracy". There is a lot of outside (international) funding for both teachers and teacher training, a lot of schools in the urban areas for street kids who are given free meals as long as they attend lessons, and foreign volunteer teachers and aid workers (VSO, etc) are welcomed. None of this applies to Thailand.

Road Travel

A cheaper & potentially slightly safer route to Siem Reap is to take the train from BKK to Aranya Prathet (48 bht, 6 hours), followed by a Tuk Tuk to the border (80 bht), then share a taxi with some other tourist to Siem Reap (say 50% of $40). At the moment, the road is un-made most of the way, so this keeps speeds down, which must be a good thing.

I actually recommended this to PM as a good alternative and a time and money saver, but there is no need to endure 6 hours in third class on the train. Some visa-runs from both Bangkok and Pattaya still go to Aranyaprathet / Poipet (ensure you do not go to Pong Nam Ron / Pailin by mistake!) and travel agencies can arrange a one-way trip, a taxi to Siem Reap and back, and a return trip from the border (Poipet). There is also a coach from Pattaya to Aranyaprathet every day taking Thais to the casinos, leaving Pattaya early in the morning and returning in the evening for 100 baht (one way or return), but this is very much a "Thai" bus with drums, etc, so personally I would avoid it.

I would also avoid this journey (Poipet - Siem Reap) in the rainy season - as z909 said the road is unsurfaced; it is actually laterite, like most of the roads in rural Cambodia, so in the dry it is fine as long as you do not mind red dust (and your driver's windscreen wipers work). In the wet, however, it becomes a mud slide and can be very treacherous even with a good driver in a 4x4 - and that precludes 99% of those on the road!

March 24th, 2008, 07:27
I was in SR the week before PM and totally agree with PM's comments regarding the differences. It took me a day to realise that the bikes (both motor and pedal) didn't have mirrors and the riders don't even look over their shoulders before moving left or right. I was told that the 'post card' kids could name the capital of your country and count to ten in your language so being a grumpy old git I put them to the test and only one knew that Cardiff was the capital of Wales and bless his little cotton socks he tried so hard with the counting I just had to buy the postcards and give him a $1 tip. I stayed at the Eightrooms guest house which is 2 minutes walk away from the old market area - for $18 a night I had no major complaints - they don't serve breakfast and if you are up early to go to the Wats there is nowhere open to get anything. The electricity supply in this area of SR is unreliable - they have street lights but never saw them on (so take a small torch with you), half way through my dinner at the roadside cafes the electric went off for about 10 minutes. The electric went off the following night in the area around the Linga bar - don't know how long it was off for but at least 90 minutes.

Early nights

As I was getting up early most mornings I didn't generally stay out much past 10 pm but the Area around the old market and pub street is not a late night place and was virtually dead by 11:30 the one night I decided to see what the night life was like ( the guest house locks the gates at 11pm and you need to ring the bell to get in)

Massages

The first one I had in the guest house and the 'boy' was organised by the manager - a very cute boy arrived and gave a very good oil massage for 1 hour for $15 - the downside was that he was straight [probably my fault for not explaining to the manager that I might want a happy ending)

Massage number 2 was at one of the massage places - these are mixed male / female - I picked a cute looking boy (I wasn't looking for a happy ending as I knew there wasn't much privicy in the massage room) - I selected the 1 hour oil massage but after 30 minutes I agreed to extend it to 2 hours - cost $12, he wanted to extend it to 3 hours but I said I needed to get back to my room - with a twinkle in his eyes he said that he would like to come to my room - I took him up on his offer the next day and for $20 got a 1 hour [naked] oil massage and an hour of play.

Bars and boys

There are two bars in this Area - the Linga bar and the blue chilli bar

The easiest one to find is the Linga bar - the waiters were cute and I got the impression that they would go with you after work. There were generally 5 or six freelancers. I probably overpaid for their services (I'll explain later) Boy one [a bit of back ground - on the way from the airport to the guest house we passed this motorcycle with 3 boys and I noticed the one in the middle and thought he's cute - 3 hours later I'm in linga bar and who should be there but motorcycle boy] we go back to the guest house for an all nighter - after a little bit of fun he gets a phone call and has to leave - I gave him $20 which he appeared pleased with. Boy number 2 did stay all night and did get up and leave when I got up - unlike Thai boys - he was happy with $30. Night 4 boy 3 - ok boys 1 and 2 are still talking to me and trying to get me to take one or both of them off - boy 3 had been flirting with me since night one but not really my type - the electric went off I got hot and sweaty so said I was off to blue chilli for a coffee and back to my room for a change of clothing - boy 3 catches up with me after my coffee and insists on walking with me to the guest house and he keeps on saying that he wants to have sex with me and I'm still saying no [assuming that he is a top and having already been shown his large cock][and hoping for a 3some with 1 and 2] - get to the room I go for a quick shower taking clean clothes with me, come out and there he is naked and bent over the bed - it was just too much so I had to enjoy myself and he was a very good bttm - he didn't want to cum and refused payment [yes you read that correctly] - no never did get the 3some

Blue chilli

This isn't so easy to find - first of all find Temple bar - keep this on your left walk to the end of the road turn left and walk on until you come to a passage way about 10 feet wide turn into it and walk about 30 yards and BC is on your left. This is a small bar with two tables outside and about 5 tables inside. Their fresh coffee at $1 was, for me, the best coffee in SR. Usually 3 or four freelancers with the odd ladyboy but few customers - I was usually the only customer apart from one night when there were 3 of us [we were all staying at the eightroom but had seen each other previously] There was only one boy there I fancied but he wouldn't bttm - the manager did try to fix me up with one of the other freelancers who was a bttm & top for $35 for all night [this is why I think I may have overpaid the other because the manager would have wanted his cut and this was the first price quoted]

temples and temple pass

most people suggested that 3-4 days was long enough in SR before being templed out. Well here's my 'take' on the time span required - my original plan was to spread the templeing over 6 days - 2 on 2 off and 2 on so I got the 1 week pass - the good point was I didn't have to wait in a queue to get my pass unlike those that were getting passes for fewer days - I arrived at the pass booth at the same time as coach loads of tourists and I found out later that it was taking them up to an hour to get their passes. Another part of the plan was to take a guided tour on day 1 and possibly day 2 then to hire a bike and re-visit some temples and visit new ones on my own - this didn't happen mainly for three reasons - the weather [raining hot humid] , a sore ankle, and the distance from SR to Ankor Wat. I ended up doing 4 long consecutive days templeing and going to the river of a 1000 lingas after which I had basically seen most of the closeby temples and some further away so it was more like I had run out of temples rather than being over templed. Although I found the temples impressive and well worth a visit they didn't 'grab' me like the temples in Egypt which I have been back to many times.

Visa on arrival

I arrived at SR airport from Chiang Mai and had misplaced the passport sized photo I had taken in Chiang Mai so I was charged 1000 bht instead of the usual $20.

HIV and condoms

this was a big difference I found on this trip - in Cambodia without fail I was asked about my HIV status and they insisted that condoms be used [which for me goes without saying] - one even wanted to know where the condoms came from as he didn't trust those from Asia. In Thailand I was surprised how many would have been willing to bareback either way - these were bar boys, and professional types of all ages that I met at babylon or sansuk

March 24th, 2008, 21:29
Thanks for the report, very interesting.

Personally I found the temples at Angkor to be fasacinating & will be back.

What did you think of the hotel staff? One of them was very cute.

gearguy
March 25th, 2008, 09:12
check out the Night Market in SR; down the road from the Red Piano; make a left at the sign for the Night Market.
Nice stalls selling a lot of handicrafts and a great open air bar. Not gay but the bartender is really cute and knows
how to put on a show. He must have seen Cocktail.