Visiting b/f family in Khon Kaen

I have been invited to visit my b/f family at xmas in Khon kaen. My b/f is ex bar boy from HIS bar in BKK. we have been seeing each other for 2 years and had several holidays and overseas holidays together. I think my b/f is Str8 (not sure) and have been incited to go to his village for new year with his family. I think they think he works in restaurant in BKK. they know about me.

any advice, do's and donnt,s. this visit has been planned now for 9 months and seems to be a big deal for my b/f.

Have u seen pics of his house?

Toilet paper isn`t used by a lot in that area. Could also be a squat toilet. Sun hat, can get very hot and many dont have aircon also.

can you handle motorbikes? taxis almost non existent.

Any western foods/ beverages you find essential ( teabags/chocolate lol)

FInd out how many are living in the house and take small gifts is a good idea.
Things of course are very cheap in that area so u need not spend much.

[allieb]

You have already decided to go so nothing anybody says will alter that. My only advise or if you like warning is. After a visit to the family you will be saddened by the way they live and will not need much encouragement to up boys monthly allowance.

"Visiting b/f family in Khon Kaen" What will I do??????????

Oh my gawd!!!! This question crops up every month or so, Dear. Save your pennies and your sanity and stay home, Honey.

My crystal ball tells me that your planned trip (9 months) will be a disaster. There will be many sick buffaloe, your straight b/f will get married to a girl in the village but will still want to fuck ladyboy ass, and, after fleecing you of every last baht, the family will find out their son was not a waiter after all, Darl.

[Boxer]

Neo dont be put off by comments, a few days only is best first time and treat it as if you are going "Camping as in tents!" take fruit and essentials in car. You will have an experience you will never forget for the good things and the not so good but it is Thai not western so think that way too. You will know more about your boy and his relationship/responsibilities with his family for the good when you come back. I have been a few times from 3 days to 3 weeks and enjoyed it all. Read some of it, more to come, on my site with pictures, go to bottom left for links.

If you cant handle too much thai food - find out where /how far to local resaturants/supermarkets. When they say its a certain town their actual village can be as much as 45 minutes drive away from the town as i found out the hard way on my first visit to sisaket - the house was more than 30 minutes drive with very few shops and NO restaurants in between!.

One thing for sure - you will probably hate the first day or even two but you will come to love it when you acclimatise - dont drink the local hooch unless you have a very strong constitution lol - you will be offfered lao many times!

[Michael]

neo

If you're unsure, why not stay in Khon Kaen City, (I'm sure that the Sofitel will have toilet paper!) and pay a visit to your friends village.
www.KhonKaen.com (http://www.KhonKaen.com)

My Thai friend is from Loei and I've stayed with his family many times over the last 6 years. The scenery is stunning and the whole village community makes me feel very welcome.

What concerns me is that you describe this man as your boyfriend and yet you're you think he might be straight???

Some good advice here. Go and have fun, but make sure you have a fallback in case you need to escape. The things I found most troublesome during my stay with my current BF were the bugs, roosters and noise early in the AM, lack of easy to eat food in home and no restaurants in walking distance and the heat. Thankfully, my bf had a western toilet with TP, a car, his own private bedroom, and the stay was more than okay. I actually lived with him and his family for a month.

With my first BF, we stayed in a hotel in Trang when I visited his home. That was a smart idea as he lived far away from everything and did not have a car.

The family will probably be very nice to you.

My best advice is to rent a car if at all possible (if you or your BF drives). It will give you mobility and a good source of air con in the heat of the day.

Hope you have a great time.

Pete

[TrongpaiExpat]

The home visit generally involved some sort of clebration in your honor, at your expence. How much seems to vary, set limits or it can get out of control.

The toilet paper advise is good. Get some wet wipes and then something to put the used one into, don't flush them. A suppy of imodium too might come in handy. Your own water, don't drink the local water from a well. If you can't handle real Thai food, you have to be polite and try everything, you don't have to eat a lot. Get some sports bars for snacks.

Don't run from the local dogs. Do not look them in the eye. They know fear, stand your ground but keep in mind that your on their home ground and they will let you know that. Let them dominate you without bitting. Most of these dogs are not pets in the western sence, they are semi wild pack dogs.

One night only. On my visit the party lasted till 4am and two hours latter everyone was getting up. Life starts early and the noise at 6am was increadable.

Oogie wrote :


One thing for sure - you will probably hate the first day or even two but you will come to love it when you acclimatise

I can only talk about my one experiments !

7 years ago bf. ask me to visit the Fam. in the South. So i rent a Jeep, the trip was about 1 day drive and a other 3 hours on a small boat. The house was in the middle off nowhere full whit monkey"s and dogs. It was dark when arrival but we did a other hour on that boat for shopping food and drinks. The bill was huge and i was very sure that store rip me off.

Back at the house there was a party and they all get drunk, given me no more attention. At 4 am they went to sleep on a wooden floor. (boy friend told me before his Fam. did not new about his job in Patong.) Boyfriend sleep whit me his arm around in front off his Fam. ( To keep me warm i think :clown: )

In the morning i was full mosquito bites and i check my wallet, there was 5000 bath missing !

The toilet outside ? Well i did acclimatise whit the apes . :clown:

I did not stay a second day but i still wonder, if it come to love if i did stay longer. :bigsmurf:

SOUNDS LIKE FUN?? WE WILL SEE. YEAH EXPECT B/F TO GET MARRIED AT SOME POINT AND I WILL FIND ANOTHER BOY AND SAME ALL OVER AGAIN.

WISH ME LUCK.

[Bob]

I would suggest that you don't have to worry about it being too hot around Christmas time. It ought to be perfect weather and you may even find that it's a bit cool at night.

[Michael]

Reading the posts above, IтАЩm starting to feel very lucky to have my Thai friend Oh (6 year holiday romance).
We visit the market in town before heading off to the village. We stock up on toilet paper and water as well as buying some ingredients from the market: chicken, vegetables, and anything else that looks good. He deals with the cash in these situations as they always inflate the price if I get involved. He enjoys cooking and so is often working with his Mother preparing food in the open air kitchen while I laze in a hammock watching. He always ensures that thereтАЩs a dish that I can enjoy. When the whole family sit down on the floor to eat together (Men are supposed to sit with their legs crossed) I try all of the dishes that have been prepared. Evening meal tends to be a variety of highly spiced vegetables served with a shared basket of sticky rice. On the odd occasion when I join the workers out in the fields for lunch, IтАЩve enjoyed a freshly caught and barbecued fish, or freshly laid eggs fried on banana leaves, with the ever-present basket of sticky rice.
Yes the workers tend to disappear early in the morning and it leaves you free to explore the area. IтАЩve never been bothered by dogs. OhтАЩs village tends to be overrun by nomad chickens rather than dogs. School children timidly shout тАЬhello, how are you?тАЭ and their language skills come unstuck when you respond. Almost everywhere I go I hear cries of тАЬFalang! Falang!тАЭ The first time that I visited (Oh tells me that IтАЩm the first foreigner to visit) an elderly lady stopped dead in her tracks with her mouth wide open and a toddler cried and ran away!
The bathroom can be a shock. A squat toilet might be bearable for a while but itтАЩs no fun when the effects of that shared rice basket kicks in! So Imodium is a good tip. A container of cold water and a bowl serves your bathing needs, although Oh spoils me with a large vessel of hot water waiting each morning.
I really enjoy my time off the beaten track, and IтАЩm glad that youтАЩre not put off by the comments above. Good luck and please keep us in touch with how you get on.
I should also say that Oh has a few college friends from Kon Kaen and IтАЩve visited their homes in the city: they were all very smart houses, a couple of them far superior to my humble abode here in England.

thanks for the above comments. it sounds like fun and if im use just for cash then so be it, it isan experience to take. Im not sure what the future holds but just take it one day at a time, my b/f know ive had a Thai b/f b4 for 4 years and finished after meeting my current b/f so I guess hes a bit nervrous of my intentions too. Im 38 hes 24 so not a massive agegap.

i have the money so not a big deal for me to help out. But i still find the bars in BKK on my mind but wonnt mess around when with b/f.
will report back.