Looking for friends in Pattaya/Jomtien.

[Davo]

Hi,

Now living in Pattaya/Jomtien & looking to make new friends.

50yo, fit & friendly. Aussie expat.

If anyone wants to meet casually for a drink/coffee, etc let me know.

Thanks.

[sglad]

Welcome to the forum, Davo. I hope you will enjoy your stay here and post your impressions of Pattaya and aspects of Thailand that interest you.

As for making friends in Pattaya, I suggest that you also check out and introduce yourself on the gaybuttonthai forum. That forum is a bit more Pattaya centric than this one and you can get a lot of general information about living in Thailand and Pattaya. Gaybutton, the host, has lived in Pattaya a long time and is always happy to introduce newcomers to other Pattaya residents. I think there's a group that meets regularly but unfortunately, there's no more meatloaf (sorry, couldn't resist! :D).

http://www.gaybuttonthai.com/

All the best!

[arsenal]

No need to make a big thing about it Davo. Go and sit in a bat in Jomtien and start chatting to the guy next to you. Just say "I love it here" and you'll soon find out if you like the cut of his jib.

[Brad the Impala]

Guess which response is from an ex moderator!

Davo, welcome to this forum. The advice to visit the Gaybutton forum is good, but it may also be that someone here, who is in Pattaya, will take you up on a meet.

[Jellybean]

On behalf of the administration team, I also offer you a warm welcome to Sawatdee Gay Thailand forum, Davo.

Many of our members live in and travel to Pattaya. Some show their location, just as you have done, others do not. If you wish to contact any of our members privately, simply log on and you will see a heading on the black banner entitled Private Messages, or another way to access the private message (PM for short) feature is through the Notifications button on the top right-hand corner.

Some members are more amenable to meeting than others, so don’t take it personally if some members choose not to meet you, simply respect their right to privacy. I have met quite a few members after they contacted me by PM and, so far, all have been very agreeable.

Good luck and I hope you enjoy posting on the various forums.

[Nirish guy]

You should probably try and move on Brad, no need to be like this every time you post. Most normal people don't need a forum full of weirdos,to meet people.

Your posts say more about you than the OP who quite simply is saying hi and that he’s happy and open to make friends. Quite refreshing actually rather than people referring to others who inhabit the same board that they post on as weirdos perhaps.

Welcome Davo, hope you enjoy posting here and find a few like minded people to say hi to and be friendly with - nothing weird about that at ALL.

[sglad]

I didn't criticise the OP NIrish. I merely pointed out how most normal people make friends.

Are you speaking of a different era perhaps? Because making friends online seem totally normal to me. You may like a person's pic (if there's one), the way he writes or find that you have common interests and views and may want to take it to the next step. Some people are naturally shy with people face-to-face and an online meeting helps to break the ice without all the awkwardness prior to meeting in person. Plus you can suss a person out through chat/email/PMs before even agreeing to meet - that's how I was saved from fountainhole.

[arsenal]

I really just meant that it's quite easy to spark up a conversation with people in Jomtien or Sunee. No need for NIrish to take his usual tone. And yes, I have no problem with any editing of this thread.

[a447]

Part of this topic has been split and moved to the Holding Room
under the title, Welcoming Members

A447
Moderator

[arsenal]

You find yourself sitting in a bar in Sunee or Jomtien. The guy next to you starts talking to you. Do you...

A) Have a nice conversation with him.
B) Tell him to fuck off.

Option B is there only for MFAS. No one else needs it.

[destiny]

Tried to send a PM to the OP but wasn't delivered. Maybe because new members can not receive PM's immediately ?
If the OP reads this: Just try to send me a PM and include a contact option. There are still some half-decent people around who are not scared to socialize....

[Moses]

Tried to send a PM to the OP but wasn't delivered. Maybe because new members can not receive PM's immediately ?
Correct. Junior members haven't PM function - protection against spat to PM from newcomers.

[destiny]

Correct. Junior members haven't PM function - protection against spat to PM from newcomers.

That is a pity. I acknowledge the forum must be safe from spam created by BOTS, but it would be helpful that a new member can at least RECEIVE a PM.
BTW, while I have signed up here in 2013, I noticed I am myself still categorized as a JUNIOR member (even though it kinda made my day to be considered a JUNIOR). How come ? Have sent several PM's over the years even I am obviously still a Junior member

[gerefan2]

Maybe because you've only made 23 posts? Some here have made thousands.

Having said that, it has to be said that in some cases, its not the posts they put in, it is what they put into the posts.

[Jellybean]

destiny, I agree with gerefan2, you should increase the number of posts you make to change your current user title from, ‘Junior Member’ to ‘Senior Member’. Alternatively, you can custom your user title. To do this, go to:

settings - Edit Profile - Custom User Title - Save Changes

Check out the current user title of, Smiles, to see what sort of title another member has decided to use.

[mr giggles]

No need to make a big thing about it Davo. Go and sit in a bar in Jomtien and start chatting to the guy next to you. Just say "I love it here" and you'll soon find out if you like the cut of his jib.

Really?

The younger guys (under 60), generally don't make a habit these days of sitting around bars. The dipsomaniacs tend to be older- I think the days of inebriates sitting around sozzled and smoking like a chimney (and whinging about how everything is better at home)- have long passed by. Sorry if that offends.. call me old fashionable
;)

Arrange to meet with some members here, do a bit of networking and see you go, good luck!

[paborn]

Really?

The younger guys (under 60), generally don't make a habit these days of sitting around bars. The dipsomaniacs tend to be older- I think the days of inebriates sitting around sozzled and smoking like a chimney (and whinging about how everything is better at home)- have long passed by. Sorry if that offends.. call me old fashionable
;)

Arrange to meet with some members here, do a bit of networking and see you go, good luck!

Really?? I took Arsenal's note to be quite sensible. He did not indicate meeting any drunken punters or finding gin soaked reprobates. All he said , basically, was next time your in a bar ( - OMG even non drinkers go and drink club soda - unless your part of a giggling group of Chinese - we are all there for the same thing. ) He suggests you turn to the person next to you and say "hi" when did good manners become an outreach to alcoholics anaymous?

[scottish-guy]

..I took Arsenal's note to be quite sensible...

That's where you went wrong right there.

[cdnmatt]

I'm pretty confused by arsenal's comment too... Ok, let me get this straight.

So in the world of arsenal, dropping a message on a forum looking for friends just to hang out with, maybe go for dinner and drinks with, movie theater, hang out at each other's places sometimes, or whatever -- that's just wierd, and makes you a social midget and a weirdo.

However, travelling half way across the world and immediately hopping on the internet to find hookers willing to suck your dick is completely normal and socially acceptable.?

Ok, got it. Will have to make a note of this rule, as not sure if I will remember it.

heh...

[paborn]

I'm pretty confused by arsenal's comment too... Ok, let me get this straight.

So in the world of arsenal, dropping a message on a forum looking for friends just to hang out with, maybe go for dinner and drinks with, movie theater, hang out at each other's places sometimes, or whatever -- that's just wierd, and makes you a social midget and a weirdo.

However, travelling half way across the world and immediately hopping on the internet to find hookers willing to suck your dick is completely normal and socially acceptable.?

Ok, got it. Will have to make a note of this rule, as not sure if I will remember it.

heh...
Well, again I took it very differently. I considered asking that a thread be set up a post were we could note the times of our plans to be in Pattaya or Bangkok - just for those who might want to. But, I never suggested it because I reflected on personal security, trolls in this space and general concerns over internet safety. What Arsenal, i don't mean to speak for him - I think was suggesting is when you're in a bar, turn to the person next to you and say "hello" You can evaluate the person and your commonalities in general conversation. Why this is strange to some is, frankly, beyond me. It hardly seems a radical solution.
By the way, you conflated two things. Aresenal never mentioned a dating app - he simply suggested personal interaction.

[cdnmatt]

What? arsenal said looking for friends on the internet makes you weird.

All the while, I'm sure he has Grindr installed on his phone. Little hypocritical, if you ask me.

[paborn]

What? arsenal said looking for friends on the internet makes you weird.

All the while, I'm sure he has Grindr installed on his phone. Little hypocritical, if you ask me.

You might want to read his actual comment before crying "hypocritical".

[scottish-guy]

You might want to read his actual comment before crying "hypocritical".

So might you, before defending him:

I'll help you out

The above quote from the Holding Room has been deleted.

Please do not quote posts on the open forums that have been moved to the Holding Room. In this particular case, you should have simply referred the member to post #1 in the Welcoming members topic in the Holding Room.

Jellybean
Moderator

[scottish-guy]

More "let's make the rules up as we go along" - it's like Head Judge Len never left

OK I'll play along Jellybean as it's obviously important to you.


You might want to read his actual comment before crying "hypocritical".

So might you before defending him!

I would refer you to post #1 in the Welcoming members topic in the Holding Room - which we are not allowed to tell you the content of (although there is nothing in the rules to that effect) and which non-members cannot see

Happy now Mr Mod?

[paborn]

More "let's make the rules up as we go along" - it's like Head Judge Len never left

OK I'll play along Jellybean as it's obviously important to you.



So might you before defending him!

I would refer you to post #1 in the Welcoming members topic in the Holding Room - which we are not allowed to tell you the content of (although there is nothing in the rules to that effect) and which non-members cannot see

Happy now Mr Mod?
If you believe that he was wrong in his remark; you should have referred to it rather than arguing with me when I was only aware of the completely innocuous posting about speaking to people next to you in a bar. I know I referred to that posting quite explicitly. I don't search the forum for other remarks I was and always will refer to the posting in the current thread.

[scottish-guy]

Which is EXACTLY why I quoted the remarks which had been moved.

You have a very strange idea of what constitutes "arguing" - it was clear to me that you and Matt were each referring to different comments from Arsenal.

I was simply helping you to become better informed, by quoting a comment which had originally been made as part of this thread, but was then moved.

It was that moved comment which prompted Matt's response, for which you scolded him despite knowing nothing about the comment he was referring to - a comment which you would still never have known about but for me.

You're always asking others for information. I gave you information. You ought to be grateful rather than whining.

As for a Mod complaining - I expect nothing less (and certainly nothing more)

[Up2U]

I would encourage the OP to visit the Pattaya City Expat Club which meets at 10:30 a.m. every Sunday at the Holiday Inn in North Pattaya. Most members are of retirement age but there are also younger members. Buffet breakfast available before the meeting.

[paborn]

Which is EXACTLY why I quoted the remarks which had been moved.

You have a very strange idea of what constitutes "arguing" - it was clear to me that you and Matt were each referring to different comments from Arsenal.

I was simply helping you to become better informed, by quoting a comment which had originally been made as part of this thread, but was then moved.

It was that moved comment which prompted Matt's response, for which you scolded him despite knowing nothing about the comment he was referring to - a comment which you would still never have known about but for me.

You're always asking others for information. I gave you information. You ought to be grateful rather than whining.

As for a Mod complaining - I expect nothing less (and certainly nothing more)

OK, I'm done with this. Yes, I ask for information since the scene is changing and I've absent for nearly two years and planning my return. When I go I will HAVE information to give. You might want to calm down and act like an adult before accusing others of whining. YOU NEVBER mentioned that yoiu were quoting from a different thread and you darn well know it. But no more on this from me.

[scottish-guy]

Except it wasn't from a different thread my dear - it was from THIS thread (and it was on display for a very long time (and attracting a number of responses) until the Mods moved the post to one of their hidey-holes).

Is it my fault you didn't think Matt might be referring to a different post before scolding him like a little child? The answer is NO

Thank you and goodnight.

[paborn]

Except it wasn't from a different thread my dear - it was from THIS thread (and it was on display for a very long time (and attracting a number of responses) until the Mods moved the post to one of their hidey-holes).

Is it my fault you didn't think Matt might be referring to a different post before scolding him like a little child? The answer is NO

Thank you and goodnight.

Thank you, I was not going to respond but I must thank you for your continued display of poor manners. The Mods moved the comment for a reason, there was no reason to search for it. You sir are, clearly, not a gentleman. This is my last comment.

[cdnmatt]

Alrighty then, I guess that's the last we'll hear from the OP.

[Manforallseasons]

Alrighty then, I guess that's the last we'll hear from the OP.

With any luck you will follow!

[paborn]

Alrighty then, I guess that's the last we'll hear from the OP.

I was not the OP, you're just wrong all the time aren't you? Must be a sad life.

[Smiles]

I took it that Cdnmatt was referring to Davo (the OP), not you. (Though heaven forbid that I should come to his rescue ... makes me gag a little.)

[cdnmatt]

No, I meant the OP.

The poor guy just drop-ped a message lookingfor some friends. The almost immediately turned into a tit-for-tat between arsenal and NIrsh, after arsenal alluded that only weirdos look for friends on the internet. Apparently, that chunk of the thread got moved which I didn't realize when making my reply, and now another bitchfest has started right up.

This is SGT boy, we don't let any change of jumping into a bitchfest go to waste. And when there is no chance, we're quite creative at creating them out of thin air.

Poor guy was just asking if anyone's around and up for a coffee or beer. Again, wouldn't exactly expect him to be back.

[paborn]

You have my total apologies. I got into the, rightly, named Bitchfest, because I had not seen the post that was moved and was commented only on what was there. The post I was referring to was, quite simply, good advice. Again, my apologies I mis understood.

[scottish-guy]

...You sir are, clearly, not a gentleman...

Great, that's exactly what I've been aiming for - it's incompatible with screwing lads <1/3 one's age

:drink:

[Brad the Impala]

Again, my apologies I mis understood.

Accepted.

[kittyboy]

Hi,

Now living in Pattaya/Jomtien & looking to make new friends.

50yo, fit & friendly. Aussie expat.

If anyone wants to meet casually for a drink/coffee, etc let me know.

Thanks.

Describing yourself and your interests in greater detail might help people decide if they want to meet up.
What are your hobbies? Why are you in Thailand? etc.

[arsenal]

Like al the others this thread went Titanic once the chippy Celts got involved. Normal conversation is perhaps beyond them. Certainly here anyway.

To reiterate for the OP who seems to have gone AWOL. Chose a bar you like, sit down, buy a drink, after a few minutes turn to the guy next to you and start chatting. Or see someone sitting alone and go and ask 'mind if I join you?