Recommendations on how to hook up as a young visitor?

[salz]

Hello,

I'm looking for some recommendations on places to go as a guy in his early twenties. Going to visit Bangkok for the first time very soon, and of course I'm interested in finding some cute Thais to play with :))

I know there are plenty of bars where one can pick up money boys. However I'm not really looking for that... (Don't want to toot my own horn, but I feel like as a young guy who regularly gets offered money by older guys, I shouldn't have to pay ;) no offense to anyone who seeks that!)

So basically I'm looking for places where one can go and easily hook up with some locals! No money boy/gogo bars, but maybe rather regular bars, where young Thais hang out, that aren't just in for the money? Or maybe there are some cruising spots for guys my age?

Again, I don't mean to judge anyone who pays!

Thanks in advance

[cdnmatt]

Grindr and Hornet.

[salz]

Yep, will definitely be using those! But was also looking for some places to go to, rather than just apps. Thanks though!

[Nirish guy]

You'll find a lot of the bars youre thinking of where guys meet up and might pay are also the same bars where you might pick up and not and you might find the line between guys who charge and guys who don't isn't just as black and white as you might hope or think, depending on who they're with - although that's not guaranteed of course ( but is likely) - so maybe head to Soi 2 and Soi 4 etc in Silom and take it from there as a starting point perhaps.

[goji]

The majority of young lads on the phone apps in Bangkok are not money boys, so you should do well there.

It's quite different to Pattaya.

Also, I believe there are disco's popular with gays -google.

Babylon Sauna.

Finally keep your eyes open for cute young gentlemen mincing around the shopping centres in Silom. This is a slightly longer shot, but if you do spot a likely candidate, don't be shy.

[BonTong]

Gay bars in Thailand are largely a western concept; Gay Thai guys go out with friends any place, not particularly gay. Indeed, outside the tourist scene bars are not the norm, most places where Thais congregate are restaurants where one can also drink. You are more likely to find Thais drinking beer at a table outside the local Mom and Pop shop than sitting at a conventional bar.

Thais also like big nightclub type places, often with live music/show, where people stand in groups around tables (dance floors are also a western concept). Some of the big clubs are specifically gay, or attract a large gay clientele - in most big clubs you will find at least a gay corner. However, these are places to go in groups of friends, not alone.

My advice would be to hook up with some guys online, make friends and get them to take you to places and introduce you to other friends. Alternatively, you might try visiting one of the more Thai orientated saunas in the suburbs and meet people there, again with the hope of getting to know a group of friends.

If looking online try to find people outside the main downtown area, e.g. in Saphan Kwai, Chatuchak, Radchada or Ramkhamhaeng districts. You are more likely to find genuine guys there. Blued is becoming increasingly popular as an App here too. All of the big shopping malls can be quite cruisey. An afternoon sitting in coffee shops at Central Lat Phrao, or even Big C at Saphan Khwai could well produce results ;)

You might try Soi 2 or Soi 4, but its basically a western experience, and you are more likely to meet money boys, or worse still gold diggers (money boys who pretend to be anything but). Dj station is full of them.

[frequent]

Gay bars in Thailand are largely a western concept; Gay Thai guys go out with friends any place, not particularly gay. Above all, don't get taken in by the "Thailand is a gay paradise" bullshit - http://www.nationmultimedia.com/news/opinion/aec/30252466 - you just won't get confronted over it because Thais don't confront

[sglad]

If you're hot, fit, alone and don't look stand-offish (and not a grinning idiot either), then they'll come to you. The gym, the pool, the bookstore, service staff, even the doctor attending to your swollen ankle. Same same everywhere.

Were you looking for pick-up bars? Do those still exist? I've only read about them or seen them in movies.

[latintopxxx]

Grindr...be explicit in what u want/looking for. Easy.

[FarangRuMak]

I would recommend that you befriend a Thai who will hang around with you as a companion, translator etc especially in the young Thai hangout places in Bangkok.
You might have to buy the drinks, pay the taxi/bts etc but it will be well worth it.
It will allow you to choose who you wish to approach as touts and freeloaders tend to leave you alone when you have company.
Soi 4 has a lot of Thai freeloaders I find, but the minute you speak some Thai they're gone:
They only want fresh-off-the-plane soft marks.

[sglad]

I would recommend that you befriend a Thai who will hang around with you as a companion, translator etc especially in the young Thai hangout places in Bangkok.
You might have to buy the drinks, pay the taxi/bts etc but it will be well worth it.
It will allow you to choose who you wish to approach as touts and freeloaders tend to leave you alone when you have company.
Soi 4 has a lot of Thai freeloaders I find, but the minute you speak some Thai they're gone:
They only want fresh-off-the-plane soft marks.

Bangkok is geared towards all manner of tourism - you don't really need a guide to find a sex partner.

The places where "young Thais hangout" tend to have much less commercial undercurrents than the places which attract farang so you don't really need a "human sieve" to filter out the potential freeloaders. By all means go with Thai friends to socialise and make new friends.. Being stuck to one guy would actually work to your disadvantage; it might send out the signal that you're not available and present all sorts of jealousy-related problems if you do find someone that you like (other than the guide).

This whole buying dinner, paying for taxi, picking up the tab business may be the S.O.P. for the typical farang-moneyboy liaison but may not be the case with everybody. Never assume that your new friend has no money or of inferior socio-economic status to you. Bangkok is full of young, friendly, attractive gay guys from across the socio-economic spectrum, many of whom can pay their own way. There are plenty of gorgeous professional Thai guys in their mid twenties to early thirties who will take you out and entertain you if you fit the bill of what they're looking for.

[samebb]

Bangkok is geared towards all manner of tourism - you don't really need a guide to find a sex partner.

The places where "young Thais hangout" tend to have much less commercial undercurrents than the places which attract farang so you don't really need a "human sieve" to filter out the potential freeloaders. By all means go with Thai friends to socialise and make new friends.. Being stuck to one guy would actually work to your disadvantage; it might send out the signal that you're not available and present all sorts of jealousy-related problems if you do find someone that you like (other than the guide).

This whole buying dinner, paying for taxi, picking up the tab business may be the S.O.P. for the typical farang-moneyboy liaison but may not be the case with everybody. Never assume that your new friend has no money or of inferior socio-economic status to you. Bangkok is full of young, friendly, attractive gay guys from across the socio-economic spectrum, many of whom can pay their own way. There are plenty of gorgeous professional Thai guys in their mid twenties to early thirties who will take you out and entertain you if you fit the bill of what they're looking for.

What he said.
There are tons of fairly wealthy gay guys in Bangkok with good jobs and/or affluent families. Don't totally write off places like DJ station and soi 4 though... Some, not all of these boys DO want to meet farangs their own age and DO go to these places. It is hard to tell them apart from the money boys gold diggers though.

I have a few friends on Bangkok who exclusively chase farangs. Usually their own age though, they are not after sugar daddies. They just want guys of a similar age.

[FarangRuMak]

I agree with all that went before.
However my post addressed the basic fact that this is a young guy visiting Bangkok for the 1st time and who wsnts to meet with gay Thais of similar age.
I think having a local who knows the scene such as the guides offered by the Big Boss here is a good idea to start off with.

[Brad the Impala]

Better to be obviously unattached if you want to attract interest and company.

[arsenal]

Brad is an expert on al things Thai and so his opinion has value beyond gold.

[christianpfc]

This whole buying dinner, paying for taxi, picking up the tab business may be the S.O.P. for the typical farang-moneyboy liaison but may not be the case with everybody. Never assume that your new friend has no money or of inferior socio-economic status to you. Bangkok is full of young, friendly, attractive gay guys from across the socio-economic spectrum, many of whom can pay their own way. There are plenty of gorgeous professional Thai guys in their mid twenties to early thirties who will take you out and entertain you if you fit the bill of what they're looking for.
Most of those I met make sure in one way or another that I'm going to pay, or rather make it precondition for meeting. That someone invites me is extremely rare in Thailand (but happens often in Myanmar and in the southern provinces: Songkla, Pattani).

[frequent]

Most of those I met make sure in one way or another that I'm going to pay, or rather make it precondition for meeting. That someone invites me is extremely rare in Thailand (but happens often in Myanmar and in the southern provinces: Songkla, Pattani).If you don't pay them off, how do you get rid of them afterwards?

[Brad the Impala]

Brad is an expert on al things Thai and so his opinion has value beyond gold.

Unfortunately you continue to demonstrate your ignorance. Perhaps you could correct your recent assertion:


They don't go after the publishers

Why would we take the extreme precautions that we do to prevent those discussions if that was the case?!

[frequent]

I wonder what view the Thai authorities would take about someone who has an official capacity on this Forum disseminating LM views via PM