Why do I like giving blowjobs?

[Old git]

There comes a time when you reflect on something you've done and enjoyed for many years, and then stop to wonder - why?

I've long since lost count of the number of dicks I've sucked, but it's been a goodly number..

- Does it bring me off - No.

- Does it make me rise to the occasion - No.

- Do I do it to increase the chances of getting f#cked? - No.

- Do I do it as a favour to the guy - No - I do it because I want to..

So there's no direct sexual gratification, although I regard it very much as a sexual activity.

I know I prefer a guy who's at least halfway hard before I start, so getting the guy up is not part of the pleasure.

It doesn't bother me too much whether or not he shoots his load, so getting the guy off is not a necessity either.

I know I prefer doing it to clean, slim, dark haired guys who may or may not have dark skin.

I know I prefer to do it to smaller guys than larger ones

I know I prefer dicks that are cut or have foreskins that drop back readily when the guy gets hard.

Although I will admire a big dick, I prefer one I can go balls deep on without gagging too much.

- But why do I enjoy doing it??

[Smiles]

There comes a time when you reflect on something you've done and enjoyed for many years, and then stop to wonder - why?
But why do I enjoy doing it??
Remembrance of Things Past?

[latintopxxx]

...because you are a passive eager to please type of guy...knock 60 years off and I'd off u :-*

[latintopxxx]

remember sex is also in the mind...not only physical, u simply get a mental high out of it..

[cdnmatt]

Why do I like giving blowjobs?

I'm assuming it's because you're gay, but just a guess.

Everyone has their own little fetishes, so wouldn't worry about it much. Some people like massages, some people like giving BJs, some are top, some are bottom, some like getting facials, some like giving facials, some like handjobs, some like group sex, some like thier ear / neck being licked, etc. Sexuality is just one of those things... 50 shades? Fuck, try about a billion shades.

[Old git]

because you're gay

I've really never liked that term. It suits a certain sector of actively effeminate men, but hits a brick wall with me. Come to that, I've never liked the term bisexual either. I've dallied with the term ambisexual, but come down to to the more embracing omnisexual - in other words, I'll shag anything, but within limits that I alone define..

[arsenal]

Sucking things is an instinctive thing for us to do. From the teat to thumbs to sweets to pen ends and then to penises.

[latintopxxx]

wow what a confused being u r!> Maybe just a product of your time/upbringing. I'n gay, as in very gay, as in men r what turns me on. I have fucked females but that was very early on. Now the only time i fuck females is if its part of a 3some with a gorgeous guy...or if Im feeling particularly kinky....but thats another story which is not for this very vanilla board.

[latintopxxx]

...and before I got side tracked...u equate gay with being effeminate, well I can assure u that I cant mince, even if I tried, I cant decorate and I hate shopping (unless its for gogo boys)...so like according to your definition ....how gay am I??

[cdnmatt]

I've really never liked that term. It suits a certain sector of actively effeminate men, but hits a brick wall with me. Come to that, I've never liked the term bisexual either. I've dallied with the term ambisexual, but come down to to the more embracing omnisexual - in other words, I'll shag anything, but within limits that I alone define..

You can label yourself whatever makes you happy, but if you're posting on SGT about how much you enjoy sucking dick, that's a pretty good sign you're gay. :)

I'm not effeminate either. Women many times get mad at me because they think I'm lieing to them when I tell them I'm gay. Nonetheless, considering my sexual partners over the years, I'm pretty confident I'm gay too. You like dick, whereas I'm definitely an ass guy. I don't know why, but just how it worked out.

It's always fun playing around in the bedroom, trying to figure out what turns the other guy on, isn't it? We all have our little quirks, and you can rarely just ask. You have to experiment, and you figure out what turns each other on after a while. Kim enjoyed getting his fingers and toes sucked. I don't know what that's about, but hey, it turned him on. :)

[Halfhansum]

Interesting Topic ..
I have a guy ( In England ) that just loves deep throating me, maybe 3 times a week ..Just walk in to find him on his knees ready ..No talking .
I always wondered what he gets out of it, as he never gets off himself, and seems to delight in making me last for half an hour or more .
Always thought he was doing it for my benefit , but it seems from what Old Git says, he is being very selfish .. Lol .

[francois]

There comes a time when you reflect on something you've done and enjoyed for many years, and then stop to wonder - why?

- But why do I enjoy doing it??

Do you swallow? Nothing like a slurpee.

[thaiguest]

Sucking things is an instinctive thing for us to do. From the teat to thumbs to sweets to pen ends and then to penises.
I believe that behind most gays there's a "mother" factor as in: no mother, too much mother, cold mother, fucked-up mother, abusive mother, smothering mother and so on.
Maybe our honourable O.Poster (and many like him) didn't get enough of mother's tits.

[bruce_nyc]

I have a close friend named, Monica Swallows. Her maiden name was Spitz.

She's come a long way since those days...

No joke. In the daytime tho, people call her, Mike.

[bruce_nyc]

.......didn't get enough of mother's tits.

Ewwww. Just Ewwww.

If and when I ever suck a cock..... I can assure you that the very LAST thing that would *ever* be on my mind would be (1) my mother, or (2) tits.... And most certainly never never never never have my mothers tits...... ever crossed my mind. That's gross.

If anything, it seems to usually be a father thing. Like a distant or neglectful or missing.... father.

Ask any gay boy or friend.... How close are you with your father. Just look at his first facial expression / reaction. That's all you need to see.

But as for sucking cock.... The most likely thing that would be going through my mind ( or anyone's mind ) is..... a feeling of worshipping his *manhood*.... literally.

It's not even mostly about pleasuring.... yourself or him.... That's secondary.

It's about being on your knees and worshiping his manhood.

That's why those who *love* to suck cock.... don't really care to get off themselves. They get off psychologically.... by the act of worshipping manhood.

[thaiguest]

Further to Bruce_nyc above I would suggest that as prenatal and immediate postnatal states are not lodged in our memory as adults we may not be consciuosly aware of what makes us tick..er..suck. Absent/cold father influence on girls is well documented as in a tendency towards promiscuity, earlier onset of puberty, maladjustment, and what I call "Germain Greer" syndrome ie assuming that ALL men are cold and distant hateful people like one's own father. But your point about a paternal element in gayness is interesting-I csn come up with anecdotal evidence for that now that I think about it. Beware-we're making a strong case for the "nurture" protagonists here. The "pray away the gay" brigade will get to love us.

[Dboy]

because you're gay

I've really never liked that term. It suits a certain sector of actively effeminate men, but hits a brick wall with me. Come to that, I've never liked the term bisexual either. I've dallied with the term ambisexual, but come down to to the more embracing omnisexual - in other words, I'll shag anything, but within limits that I alone define..

Why all the need to label stuff? Do what you enjoy doing. Introspection is certainly a good thing, but labeling things is often just a substitute for understanding, not understanding itself.

Labeling Theory:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Labeling_theory

Social Construction:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Social_constructionism

Abusing Foucault:
http://www.slate.com/blogs/outward/2014/03/04/sexuality_as_social_construct_foucault_is_misunder stood_by_conservatives.html

[bruce_nyc]

I always say.....

Labels are code for lists of expectations.

And every person's stored list of expectations, for each label, is different.... and unique.